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"Body Language"
An estimated 67% to 93% of human communication (according to university researchers) is nonverbal, and your body language reveals your internal emotional state. Whether someone's parents
just died, or whether they just got promoted to CEO... you can tell by observing their body
language.
So, as a man who tries to pick up and seduce women, you should be mindful of what you're
communicating non-verbally.
Body language consists of the following:
- Your movements. They should be nonchalant, as if you're so fabulously successful that there's
rarely a reason for you to rush nor try to impress anybody. Move through the world doing what
you want and assuming that others will follow.
- The displacement of your body. Your arms and legs should be spread out. Don't be afraid to
take up space.
- Your voice. It should have a calm, soothing, and commanding effect. Don't speak too fast or
strain your voice.
- Your face. Keep your facial muscles relaxed. Never tense your jaw, and only rarely should you
frown or wrinkle your brow.
- Your shoulders. Keep them relaxed like they'd be if you just got a massage. Don't raise them up
like a nervous person.
I would even go as far as to say that you body language is more important than anything you say,
because if your body language doesn't match what you say, then you won't succeed with women.
You see, if you tell a woman stories that convey your confidence, but at the same time you slump
over and fold your arms, then you come across as fake.
I've picked up women before merely through the use of my body language. For example, a

couple months ago I was at a coffee shop that I frequent, lounging on the couch, arms spread out,
with my feet up on the table.
The mindset I had was that I felt so comfortable that it was as if I were in my home lounging on
my own couch. It was as if I owned the coffee shop.


The net result was that a girl sitting near me put down her book and started engaging me in
random small talk.
(Whenever an attractive girl you don't know starts a random conversation with you, you should
ALWAYS assume that she's attracted to you. This is because women generally won't risk the
whole male-female dynamic, especially with a stranger, unless they feel attraction.)
The conversation went on for awhile, I got her number, called her that night, and a few days later
we met and after several hours went to her place, where I spent the night. (We finally had sex in
the morning.)
The bottom line though is that she became initially attracted to me and approached me because
of my body language.
Now, of course body language isn't enough. You also must have an internal alpha male mindset
that's consistent with your body language.
But make no mistake about it... if your body language conveys confidence, then your mood will
also shift to become more confident. And have you ever noticed how when you walk with a
spring in your step, you feel more upbeat?
Conversely, when you cast your eyes down and drag your feet, you feel depressed. So your
mindset also follows the body language that you adopt.
So, in conclusion, be an alpha male with your mindset and your body language. Be in a woman's
personal space and be sexual and interested in her, but at the same time don't be needy or
desperate for her attention. Just be comfortable and enjoy yourself.
And when your body language conveys that, it means you'll later be comfortable and enjoying
yourself... with the woman.

"Boyfriending Technique"
I'm going to reveal an important comfort-building technique I call "Boyfriending." In a nutshell,
there's something you can do that's usually done ONLY by a woman's boyfriend.
If you do it too, it's a way of getting under a woman's radar and making her comfortable enough
around you so that she'll be receptive to sex without making you wait.
You see, in order for a typical woman to have sex with a man, she must have feelings of comfort.
It is not enough for her to simply feel attraction for the guy.
Let's say you meet a girl at a 5 PM happy hour. The two of you hit it off, having a great
conversation. She's laughing. She's interested. You entrance her by telling her fascinating stories
about your life. The two of you have good rapport.
Around 7:30, you get hungry and invite her to get something to eat. Dinner goes well too. Then
dinner ends. Now what?
Around this time, a lot of guys get confused about how to advance the interaction forward.
Clearly the goal is to get laid, but the roadmap is often muddled.
Usually the night ends with the woman saying something like, "I had great time meeting you.
Call me. Bye!"
Often, the need for comfort is why women like to make guys wait before sex.
(If the guy's lucky, it might be only three dates, but with a lot of women, the guy can be made to
wait for months.)
Fortunately, there's a way to shortcircuit that barrier. I call it the "Boyfriending Technique."
If you watch couples who are in close relationships, you'll notice an interesting phenomenon.
The man and woman are extremely comfortable touching each other, so much so that they'll even
do seemingly gross things like brush sleep ("eye boogers") out of each other's eyes.
It's a behavior that's only done by people who are completely comfortable around each other.
Certainly when you are in a relationship where you can brush sleep out of a woman's eye, you've
long since passed the point where the two of you are comfortable having sex.
Catch my drift? You can use this as a psychological weapon to make the woman feel more
comfortable around you.
In mid-conversation, tell her to hold still and close her eyes. Pretend there's sleep in her eye, and
make her believe that you just brushed it off.

Later, after the two of you finish eating and leave the restaurant, again tell her to hold still. With
your finger, brush off an imaginary piece of food from her lower lip.
The net result of the Boyfriending Technique is nuclear. First, it sub-communicates that the two
of you are very comfortable around each other.
Second, it involves you touching her face, bringing your heads closer together and progressing
towards a make out session.
Third, in the case of you touching her lower lip, you're in fact touching an erogenous zone. That's
right... a woman's lower lip has a high concentration of nerve endings. Stimulating her lower lip
makes her body release sex hormones.
Make the Boyfriending Technique a part of your dating arsenal, and you'll find more success
than ever before. You may just be having sex within several hours instead of having to wait
several months.


"The Fated Encounter"
Wouldn't it be nice if you could create feelings within a woman of a deep connection with you...
even if you two have known each other for only a few hours... and without having to resort to
complicated (and risky!) hypnosis tactics?
Well, good news. There is a very easy, no-risk way to do this. I call it the Fated Encounter
Technique.
Here's why it works. Every woman has a fantasy from the time she was a little girl, triggered by
a constant diet of romance movies and novels, about fate bringing the man of her dreams to her.
In one typical scene the guy and the girl almost bump into each other on the sidewalk. Instead,
fate keeps them apart, and they go their separate ways.
Then, two years later, they live in the same apartment building. Yet after several close calls, they
still don't meet, again because of fate.
The two date other people, off and on, and yet are never happy. Months go by. The man and the
woman each ponder what it will be like when they meet that special someone, someday...

And then near the end of the movie, fate finally brings them together. And of course they hit it
off right from the start.
Wouldn't it be nice if that could happen in real life, rather than having to wait through several
dates before the woman finally feels comfortable enough with you to have sex?
Well, it can. You can speed the seduction process and have the woman feeling deeply connected
with you by using my Fated Encounter Technique. I'll explain how it works.
During the course of your conversation with the woman, you bring up places she has been to. If
you've been to those same places, you then talk about how amazing it is that the two of you
could have been there at the same time and yet destiny kept you apart.
Let's say, to use a recent example I encountered, that she shops at the local Whole Foods grocery
store.
You can then say, "That's awesome. I shop there too. Imagine, we've probably seen each other
there all the time!"
Another example would be that the two of you go to downtown LA all the time, and probably
have walked past each other on many occasions.
And now, you can say, "Isn't it amazing how fate has finally brought us together?"
As the conversation progresses, the two of you can talk about other coincidences, and the things


the two of you might have done together if you'd only known each other.
With the seed planted, as the girl thinks about those coincidences, and how "fate" has now
brought the two of you together, she will then start to feel as if she's known you, on a deeper
psychic level, for a lot longer than just a few hours.
She concludes, you are the man she's been waiting for all her life.


"Have You Got a Girlfriend? Here's How Not to
Screw It Up"
Having a girlfriend can be a dangerous thing. We become too dependent on our woman for our
happiness, and then if we get dumped, we find that we've all of a sudden lost our confidence.

This results in being without sex for many months, until we finally get a girlfriend again, and...
the cycle repeats.
So to break this cycle, we need to REMAIN the attractive guy, the alpha male.
You see, relationships can make us guys too lazy (since the sex is so easy) and we lose that "high
value" mindset. It's crucial to keep that alpha male frame of mind that says, "I am like a
Lamborghini."
Do Lamborghini dealerships grovel to try to get people to like them? Of course not. Instead they
allow all the buyers to come to them. Hell, Lamborghini doesn't even advertise. As a man, you
should have a similar confident mindset if you want to maximize the attraction your girlfriend
feels for you.
So, how do you keep that alpha mindset? First and foremost, avoid chasing your girlfriend like a
puppy dog. A basic concept which will prevent her from ever treating you badly is what I call
Punishment and Reward.
If a woman engages in behavior which you disapprove of, punish her by withdrawing your time
and focusing on something (or someone) else. If she does something you like (such as having sex
with you), reward her by giving her more of your time, talking about her feelings, etc.
So whenever you do something nice for her, do it because you're rewarding her. And DO reward
her good behavior, if you want more of it. Like I said, Punishment and Reward.
Then there's the issue of being a challenge. Women act sweet when you're a challenge to them.
They act bitchy when they take you for granted and no longer feel like they need put out effort to
win your affections.
Often by around month 6 in a relationship is when a woman really starts to take a guy for
granted, so avoid that by remaining a challenge.
So the solution to remaining the attractive, alpha guy in your relationships is threefold:
1. Always be willing to focus your time on things other than your girlfriend. Don't reward her for
acting bitchy by continuing to be around her when she does. On the other hand, too, reward her
for good behavior by giving her more of your time when she acts sweet.


2. Always have it in the back of your mind that you could end the relationship at any time. Don't

explicitly threaten her with that, but just make it a subtle implication. That way she'll never
become truly comfortable with the relationship and will keep working to win you.
3. Always allow her to think that's she's just a little bit more interested in you than you are in her.
Again, this can be very subtle, but if (for example) you're telling her 20 times a day that you love
her, and she's only telling you that twice, then obviously the situation is badly out of whack.


"How to Attract Girls Even if You're Short"
Let me mention a few names and you can tell me what they all have in common:
- Al Pacino
- Humphrey Bogart
- Napoleon
Okay, no surprise here... they're all short guys. But you know what? They were all awesome with
the ladies (and not just because of their celebrity status... they were all players before they
became famous.)
In fact, the reason they could attract girls was because of their strong inner attitude.
There are a couple things you can do in the short term. Wearing boots right now will subtly add 2
or 3 inches to your height.
Also, when you dress, wear vertical stripes and tight clothes. That will make you look
SLENDER, which will make you appear taller.
Long term, one way short guys can be more dominant physically is to work out. In fact that
really should be first and foremost. If you've got muscles, it helps A LOT, not only with your
physical appearance, but also with your confidence levels, strong inner attitude, and poise. So get
in the gym.
When you're muscular and you're a short guy, you become like a pit bull. And by the way, I'd
like you to experiment with that.. do not always be the nice guy who's polite. For the next few
months, try to let your "inner badass" come out a bit when you're with girls.
Do the affirmation, "I'm becoming like the pitbull who can dominate the bigger dogs."
Once you start feeling more and more confident in a few weeks, change your affirmation to, "I
AM like the pitbull who can dominate bigger dogs."

I've noticed that a lot of short guys develop a VERY strong presence by having cultivated that
inner badass.
Now, I'm not saying you should become a jerk... but just try to balance out that inner nice guy.
Next thing to do long term is to GIVE UP any approval-seeking. Who cares what women think
of you? Go through life doing what you want and being who you are. (That is so key by the
way... those guys I list above were players exactly because they went through life doing what
they wanted and being true to who they were.)


You see, short guys who are badasses really have a bit of an advantage. Because of their stature,
they automatically are able to have more rapport with chicks (who tend to be short themselves)
than the guys who are beanpoles. And when you add to that a bit of a "badboy" element, it makes
chicks dripping wet with attraction.
The bottom line is this: only if YOU feel uncomfortable with your height will it affect you with
the girls. If you feel completely comfortable with your height, then they will too.
By the way, when it comes to tall guys, what women find attractive about them isn't their height.
It's their dominance. If you have a tight sense of inner confidence, and project a personality that
sucks them in, height will be the furthest thing from their minds.
So to sum up, be true to yourself, take risks in life, cultivate your inner badass, and stop caring
about anyone's approval. And hit the gym ASAP. And do the fashion things I said.
Then you'll attract girls without worrying about irrelevant things like height.


"How to Get a Girl to Like You"
We've all had that special woman in our lives. You know... the one with the sweet personality,
the really nice hair and a perfect face.
She dates the more "adept" guys... but how can you get her to like you?
While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks, a woman finds a man
attractive because of his personality. A ideal man is an alpha male who's confident in himself and
not afraid to take the lead to get what he wants out of life.

Ironically, what this means is that the best way for a girl to like you is when she feels like she has
EARNED you.
That's because to get a girl to like you, you should come from a mindset of high value. Never
come from a position of neediness.
So the best attitudes to have towards any one particular woman are:
1. Nonchalance.
2. Non-attachment to whether she likes you or not. (By that I mean, if she likes you that's
awesome, but if not, there are tons of other chicks out there who are equally as great as she is.)
The bottom line is that a woman should never be a challenge for you. Instead you should be a
challenge for her.
In addition to placing a high value on yourself, you can also eliminate neediness by building up
your social network. Make friends with as many women as you can. (Women are easy to make
friends with.)
Also date as many women as you can... don't restrict yourself to dating only "that one special
girl."
You see, the last thing you ever want to have going through your mind when you're around that
special woman is, "God, I MUST have this girl! She's irreplaceable!" Having an abundance of
women in your life will solve that problem.
Also, whenever a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy, she too feels attraction.
Psychologically, this is known as the "social proof" phenomenon... and it's much more powerful
in women than men.
Ever noticed how your female friends drool over the guy at the corner of the bar who's got four
babes at his table? That's social proof in action.


By the way, it's fine to think a girl is beautiful and to have powerful feelings for her.
Here's the key though... you must always remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women
out there who are just as wonderful as she is.
If you start thinking that any girl is one of a kind, then that gives her power over you, and,
ironically, makes her lose attraction to you.

So, you're free to think that a woman's amazing. Just remember that lots of other girls are
amazing too. That way you won't become needy.
So remember, place a high value on yourself, make her earn your attention, and hang out with as
many women as possible... those are the three secrets for how to get a girl to like you.


"Revealed: What Women Want When It Comes to a
Guy's Looks"
As part of my research for a guide to style, I put together a focus group of 6 randomly chosen
hot, single women between 21 and 33, to find out what styles in men they considered hot.
My goal was to find the things that they all agreed on.
The results were surprising, because the issues the women had the strongest opinions about were
ones that most guys would never think of.
1. YOUR TEETH. Bad teeth are "just gross" said one blonde bombshell, to the enthusiastic
agreement of the others.
So in order to not have your teeth immediately disqualify you, keep them brushed twice a day,
flossing at least once. And if they're rotten or badly stained, see your dentist ASAP.
However, don't go crazy with the teeth whitener. "No one wants to kiss Chiclet Mouth," added
the blonde.
2. YOUR HANDS. Women notice right off the bat if your hands are covered with dirt or grease.
"If you work with your hands," said one woman, "that's not the first thing a woman should notice
about you."
So auto mechanics, construction workers, and other blue collar types, listen up.
"It's not what a person does," explained another chick. "It's just about taking care of yourself. If
you can't even wash your hands, what does that say about you?"
3. YOUR CLOTHES. When you're wearing jeans, leave the tennis shoes at home.
"I am a believer that athletic gear is for exercise," said a part-time model in her mid-20s. "Some
boys wear only tennis shoes and that's just annoying. It shows immaturity."
Good shoes instead are loafers or boots.
Try to be neat without being anal. "You should not look sloppy," said the blonde, "but don't look

so put together that you appear obsessive-compulsive."
And, be an individual, agreed the women. If you've got that one shirt that only you love, you
should still wear it, even if it is somewhat "uncool." For example, take a hawaiian shirt with a
flamingo on it. Some guy who absolutely loves it can wear that shirt.


So the bottom line is that a few guys can indeed pull off wearing the tennis shoes.
Sound confusing? It isn't once you realize that the simple test is this: Are you wearing clothes
that display your core personality?
As one woman explained it, "You should be comfortable with what you're wearing and like what
you're wearing, because women will pick up on that."
So in other words, the perfect style for you comes down to personal preferences and your
individual sense of style. You can't make one rule for everything, except just be your genuine
self.


"Are You Making These Body Language Mistakes
With Your Hands?"
Unfortunately, what you do with your hands can be one of the quickest non-verbal ways to
destroy the attraction that a woman feels for you, because the wrong hand movements can
communicate that you are a low-status, beta male.
To make matters worse, your hands can be particularly tough to manage because, let's face it,
when you feel nervous, the hardest thing in the world is figuring out what to do with your hands!
For success with your dating and seduction of women, make sure you don't make the following
body language mistakes with your hands.
MISTAKE ONE. Displaying your anxiety with your hands.
You do this when you:
1) Shred napkins.
2) Make your hands into fists.
3) Sit on your hands.

4) Hold something and play with it.
5) Twiddle your fingers or thumbs.
6) Hold your hands unnaturally still.
7) Sit on your hands to avoid having the woman see them tremble.
Although you might be feeling nervous, the last thing you want to do is to let the woman detect
you feel that way.
Instead you want to convey that you're calm and in control. Nothing attracts a woman more than
a man who's laid back and confident.
MISTAKE TWO. Putting your fingers into your mouth.
When you bite your nails or otherwise chew on your fingers, you are, according to psychologists,
doing the same thing that infants are doing when they suck their mother's breast.
For a baby, breast feeding provides comfort. When we became toddlers, our thumbs replaced our
mom's nipple.
And then as adults, biting our thumbnail does the same thing. Ever noticed that when you're out
in public, you mainly bite your nails when you're under pressure?
THE SOLUTION. Just hold your hands relaxed on the table.
Rest your forearms on the table, keeping your arms open and letting them drop forward.


Keep your hands and arms open and relaxed. Most of the time this means having them about 18
inches or half a meter apart, your palms facing each other, with fingers curved slightly upward.
As your palms face each other, they should also face the woman. Open palms convey honesty
and being completely comfortable with yourself. Having the back of your hands facing her can
often convey that you're hiding something.
Demonstrating your confidence can be as easy as that! Stop twiddling your thumbs and watch
the women flock to you.


"How to Start a Conversation With a Woman"
Last week I had the easiest pick up and lay in my life, and it all started with me walking by a

random girl and saying (using a clear, resonating voice and disinterested, but relaxed and sexual
body language), "Hey."
She looked up, expecting me to say something interesting.
My follow-up was simply, "Do you know where the smoothie place is? I'm in the mood for a
smoothie."
After that, she kept the conversation going. Simple, right?
Here was the key: I always made sure that she was reacting to me more than I was reacting to
her.
When I first started speaking to her, I frankly couldn't care less about what she thought of me.
My mindset was, "I'm just going through my day. But hey, if some hot chick wants to earn my
attention, that's cool. If not, I'm going to enjoy my day just the same."
I've coached a lot of guys, and the mistake I most often see a guy make when he opens a
conversation with a girl is that he tries to get a response from her.
Maybe he tries too hard to make her laugh. Or he starts asking her weird questions that he
shouldn't be interested in when speaking to a total stranger (e.g., "What's you major?" or "How
has your day been today?")
This sets her up with a higher value than him.
You see, whenever you set a girl up with a higher value than you (like when you're trying to win
her approval), this causes her to lose attraction for you.
In every conversation, there is always one person who is reacting more than the other. The
person who reacts less (i.e., is the more relaxed of the two) is the more dominant, or alpha,
person.
The person trying to win the other's approval is the one who's more attracted. So a girl will
struggle to make small talk and keep the conversation going as long as your value is higher than
hers.
Women are attracted to men who are a challenge for them. If at some point it becomes clear that
you're trying to win her approval, then there's no longer a challenge for her and she loses interest.
Keep the alpha status and stay in control of the situation right from the beginning. Make sure to

not ever react too much to what a girl says. Always remain more relaxed than her.
So the answer to the best way to begin a conversation with a woman is this: Don't try. Don't care
what she thinks. Just say whatever you want.


"How To Make A Woman Trust You Completely"
I'm about to reveal a little-known secret of human persuasion that can induce the woman to feel
complete trust for you, and have sex with you... even if it's the very first date.
You see, for a woman to have sex with a guy, she must not only be attracted to him, but she must
also trust him. Look at it like this:
1. Trust Without Attraction = "He's a great friend and I love him to death!" (Translation: "We'll
NEVER have sex!")
2. Attraction Without Trust = "I'm not a loose woman. He'll have to wait before he gets any!"
However, if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy, she'll be literally begging you
to take her home with you that night.
Let's take a typical scenario. Say it's coming up on 11 PM, and you've been with a woman since
6 that afternoon. As long as you've had good rapport with her and you've kept pushing the
interaction forward, you can assume she's attracted to you.
And by the way, with a woman, you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise.
Because the bottom line is that as long as you've got good body language, you've got a lot going
on in your life, and you're witty and interesting, she WILL be attracted to you.
Now you need to build trust. By the time you finish this article, you'll know an easy, efficient
way to do that.
And by the way, this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion. The most successful
advertisers and salesmen to make billions use it, and now you'll be able to use it with women.
Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous
example of this was the wildly success Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the
huge headline: "Lemon."
The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect. VW took its quality inspections so
seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars.

You see, if a person tells you something that's against his self-interest, you tend to trust him
more. We all do. It's a fundamental trait of human psychology.
So when it comes to women, you should point out your minor flaws. Examples could be:
- "I have an ugly mole on my neck. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it."
- "I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!"
- "I don't always floss my teeth even though I should."


Even if they're fake flaws, it doesn't necessarily matter. By pointing them out, you create a
perception of honesty within the woman.
Because she believes the minor imperfections about you, she'll believe the MAJOR
PERFECTIONS about you as well.
This means that, having both attraction for AND trust in you, later that night she could be
breathlessly panting, "I've never done it with a guy this soon before!"


"The Number One Secret Behind the Alpha Male's
Body Language"
Watch a man with high status--Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or the CEO where you work--and
you'll notice that he moves differently than the rest of us. He gives off vibes that he is hot stuff,
and because of that, women get soaking wet over him.
You, too, can create that aura that makes you attractive to women.
Have you ever noticed the way your friends look when they're all nervous? They're looking
down at the ground with their arms crossed, fidgeting, with their voices cracking and their eyes
bugged out.
And when you give off that kind of body language yourself, women don't want to be around you.
Now, think about successful guys. They've got girls all over them and some great body language
going on.
So, what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've
probably guessed it... the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social

situations.
Make no mistake about it... relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in.
With that in mind, here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of
an alpha male (and by the way, if you think they're easy, you're right... you can make these
changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention):
1. Don't allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go, since you can't solve any
problem by worrying. So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live life.
Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old--but relevant in this case-cliche). You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel
worried.
But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it, it's simply the fear of what
might happen in the future. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before
anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!
So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore. Identify them for
what they are... toxic to your emotional state, and... let them go.
Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your
worries.


2. A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest.
When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise
and fall as you breathe.
3. Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation:
- Raising your shoulders.
- Wrinkling your forehead.
- Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs.
- Tightening your facial muscles.
4. Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch.
Alpha males generally move unhurriedly, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are
nervous and make jerky movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming
pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.

5. Relax your eyes and eyelids.
Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around.
Instead let your eyelids rest. Look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they interest
you. While you're out and about, do the affirmation to yourself, "I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I
am in control."
6. If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly.
A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their
name, you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast.


"Four Keys to Overcoming Your Nervousness
Around Women"
Standing at the magazine rack thumbing through Cosmo, she has the most gorgeous face you've
ever seen. Her hair is silky brown. Her skin looks so radiant and so incredibly soft. You would
be on top of the world if you could pick her this girl up.
You feel the fear deep in your gut.
You know that even if you got your balls in gear and went for it, you wouldn't know what to say.
You feel so nervous and fumbly that you would reject yourself if you were her. So you shy away
from even approaching her in the first place.
Does this situation sound familiar? If so, keep reading.
The first thing for you to realize is that all guys get anxiety about approaching women. I know I
certainly do.
But what separates you (and me) from the rest of the guys is...
What You Do About Your Fear.
Most guys let fear paralyze them... not just about chicks, but about other things in their life like
their career... which is why, unfortunately, most guys will never find the success they want.
First, look at where your fear comes from. The problem is inside of you. It's not with the chicks.
If you're thinking about rejection, then that means you're making your approaches with a certain
outcome in mind. (I'm just guessing, but I think if you're like most guys, your goal is getting
chicks attracted to you so that you can get laid.)

Try this instead... approach without having any expectations. No goals.
Let me tell you about a problem I used to have. I'm inclined to be an introvert, as I discuss in my
book , [insert your affiliate link for "How to Become an Alpha Male"].
So to overcome my shyness, I would force myself to chat up everybody, no matter who they
were... hot girls, ugly girls, fat girls, old people, men, people walking dogs, etc.
I would talk about neutral topics with them, nothing to do with picking up chicks.
The net result from all of that was I became really good at approaching people.
After that, however, I made a mistake. I said to myself, "Since I'm so good at approaching people


and have become an outgoing person, why am I wasting time talking to anyone other than hot
chicks?"
So then I limited the people I talked to... and my anxiety about talking to random women swept
over me once again. It was as if I'd never had all that practice chatting up strangers in the first
place.
At that point I realized it was because I was outcome-dependent. Because I had thoughts like
"I'm going to try to lay this chick" in my mind... before I'd even opened my mouth to say "hi"...
and so I would crash and burn. It sucked.
Here's something I want you to try. Whenever you go out, talk to three people, but do it just for
practice. Don't do it for real.
Because it's just for practice, don't limit yourself to just talking to hot women. In general, I've
found that elderly people (both males and females) and fat women are easy to talk to.
If it helps, set up a time limit for your practice interactions, like that you'll talk to the person for
30 seconds and then you'll get out of the conversation. (Say something like, "Well, I'm on my
way to meeting a friend. Good chatting with you." And then walk away without making a big
deal of it.)
Once you've done your practices and feel warmed up, then you can chat up hot chicks. Again
though, do it without having any sort of sex-related outcome in mind.
For example, if a chick passes by you in a hallway, just say, "Hey, I need a quick female opinion
on something." (Then ask about something that you genuinely want a female opinion on.)

Remember though: have no outcome in mind. So it doesn't matter if the chick responds rudely.
In fact, when you reach a point that you've chatted up lots of women, you'll find that eventually
rude responses on their part mean nothing. You'll have an attitude of "ha, how original... I've had
tons of women give me that exact same 'clever' rude comment."
I've been rejected hideously, time and time again. One chick screamed "Go away!" at me before I
could even get out my initial sentence.
Another time I thought it was amusing when I approached a group of two girls, just for practice,
and right after I said "hey," they both turned their backs on me in unison, as if they were
synchronized dancers!
Now I just look back on all of that and laugh.
My point is that the more you approach, the more you'll reach a level where you notice that most
people act in the same, predictable ways. It'll bore you rather than cause you anxiety.