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TiNH CHU DONG GIAO TIEP Udl CHA lYIE CUA THIEU NIEN
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1. G i a dinh cd vol trd rd'l quon trqng trong
v i f c hinh thdnh vd phdt t r i l n nhdn cdch cua I r i ,
b d i : cha m f Id nhung ngudi t l l p xOc vdi t r i
thudng xuygn, Idu d d i . Id cdu ndi chuyen gioo
n i n vdn hda xa hdi tdi trg thdng quo giao tiip
(GT). Vigc GT v6i cha me khdng chi d l thdo man
nhu cdu linh edm md cdn Id mdt phuong ihuc
giup t r i tiep nh^n n i n vdn hda nhdn loqi. Trong
qud trinh GT, trg duqc sol minh v6o cha me, quo
d d tfch luy kinh n g h i | m , chud'n myc x d h0i, b l l n
thdnh vdn sdng, vdn h i l u b i l t ci3a minh. Vi t h i ,
trg cdng chu a$ng, tfch eye GT boo nhlgu, sy
phdt t r i l n ldm If, nhdn cdch dlen ra nhanh chdng
bdy nhigu.
Lija tudi t h i l u nien (TN) Id glal doqn chuyin
t l l p , qud d q tu tudi tho Ign tudi trudng thdnh, bdi
vdy, cd sy chuyin b l l n rdt Idn v l t h i chd't cung
nhu tdm tf, xd hdi--. Ngt tdm If ndi bqt nhdt cOo
li>a tudi TN d d Id sy thay ddi trong GT vdi ngudi
Idn vd cdc bqn cung ludl. Cdc em cd t h i de ddng
trd chuygn vdi bqn bg nhung Iql gdp n h l l u Ird
ngqi trong GT vdl cho m?, dO cho cho m? v3n Id
nhihig ngudi hdng ngdy chdm sdc, nudi ndng,
gido dye ede em. V i l e GT glua con cdl vd cho
m^ ngdy cdng bj hqn e h l ( v l thdi gion cung nhu
ndi dung GT) k h l ^ sy h l l u b l l t cOo cho me v l

eon edi ngdy cdng thgm khodng cdch. Ddy cung
chfnh Id nguygn nhdn cOa Hnh trqng t r i vi phqm
phdp ludtvd nhiJng hdnh vi lech chudn ngdy edng
gio tdng.

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thilt k l trong mSu p h i l u tim h i l u v l Knh tfch eye
GT. Cdn eu vdo thang d i l m quy u6e, ehung Idi
chlo thdnh 3 mi>e: coo, tnjng binh vd thdp.
2 . K i t q u d nghign cuu
1) TCD trong GT cOa TN vdl cha m^ ( k i t
qud trinh b d y d bdngl].
Bdng 1. TCDGT vdl cha, mf cOa TN
TCE)GT
Thdp
Trung blnti
Ceo
Tdng chung
OTB

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224
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Bdng 1 cho thd'y, nhln chung TCDGT vdt cha,
mf cua TN chi d muc do trung binh ix=
vdl mf,x=^

1,91

,79 vdl cho) nhung ed sv khdc b l | t

v l muc dp TCDGT cdo con vdi cho vd me, hong
d d , trd ed phdn chu dpng GT vdi m^ hon so vdi

e h a | ^ = 1,91 > 1,79).
Tim h l l u SI/ phdn b d H \i timg muc dp cOo
TCDGT, ehung tdi nhdn thdy, do s d T N h; ddnh
gid (TDG) thudc hot nhdm muc d d «trung b i n h '
vd «cao" (hon 55,0% vdl ed m? vd cho). TI Id TN

ed TCDGT d «muc thd'p" Id 40,d% ddi vdi m? vd
45,5% ddi vdl cho. TN ed TCDGT vdl m f d «miic
c o o ' c h l l m tl 1^ Idn hon so vdi cho (31,4% so vdl
24,d%). Ngupc Ipl, TN cd TCDGT d «muc thdp"
De iJido sdt ihyc trqng vd muc d d chu dqng GT vdi cho Igl c h l l m tl 1$ Idn hon so vdi m f (40,d%
cOa trg ddl vol cha me, ndm hqc 2010-2011, chung so vdi 45,5%). TI l | TCDGT d «mi>c hung binh"
tdl d d tien hdnh d l l u Ira 503 hqc sinh (HS) Idp 7, cdo TN vdi cha vd m? hiong ddi cdn bdng (28,0%
8, 9 cua 5 trudng THCS: Trdn Ddng Nlnh; Nam vd 29,9%).
D l d d n h g i d m d t cdch d d y d d hon v l
H d n g ; N a m Phong (TP. N a m Djnh); N g o Son
(Thanh Hdo), Ldmdndxdp (Hd Ndl)- Phuong phdp TCDGT cda TN vdi cha vd m?, chdng tdi phdn
nghign cuu chu y l u Id d i i u tro bdng bdng hdi, tich SI/ khde b i | t g i u o ede muc d d cuo TCD
f ^ d n g vdn sdu vd phdn h'ch chdn dung mdl sdco glQo ede nhdm HS theo cdc t i l u chi: g i d i , hge
d l l n hinh. Tinh chO dgng giao tiip (TCEX5T) Id mdl li/c, khd'i Idp, t r u d n g , t h u ti/ con trong gio
trong bdn tieu chf d l fim h i l u v l tfnh tich eye GT dinh. K i t q u d :
cOo TN vdl cha me. Ddy cung Id 4 ndi dung duqc
' TnUf tv iwc sir p l m Hi N«i

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Bdng 2 cho thdy, khdng ed sv khde bi$t rd
r$t Irong TOG cua TN d cdc nhdm khdc nhau vi
TCDGT cua minh dii vdi mp. HS Idn, HS ed hqc
lye ylu klm vd HS Id con cd TDG minh ed TCEX3T

vdl m^ d muc dd thdp nhllu hon so vdi nhOng
HS hqc Idp nhd. Id con utvd nhi/ng HS khd gidi.
Khdng cd sy khdc bl|t qud Idn giuo HS d cdc
^ o bdn khdc nhau hoy gliki HS nam v6 HS n(>
v l TCEX3T vdi me. Nhdn djnh ndy duqc khdng
dinh rd ngl hon khi quan sdl bliu dd 1.
Biiu dSl.DTB TCDGT cua TN vdl mp
{X6t Iheo ede tl6u chi)

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43.9

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19,6

23.9

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eoo vd TCD thdp.
D l phdn tich Id hon sv khde bl$t v l TCDGT
vdi cha d cdc nhdm TN khdc nhou cOng nhu thdy
dugc SI/ khdc bi|t glOa TCDGT ciio TN vdt cJw vd
m?, ehOng tdl Wnh 0TB cuo TCDGT cuo TN vdl
cho [bliu dS 2).
BtgudS2:DTB TCDGT cOoTNv&cha
IxU theo cdc Hiu chll

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- Trving
Gidl Knh
- Thi> tv con

Bl^ dd 1 cho thdv, nhin chung, TCEX5T cOa TN
vdl m? d muc trung binh (DTB nam Irong khodng
tu 1 .d7 < < 2.34). Cdc yiu td: khdi Idp, djo bdn,
gidl Knh, hqc lye vd lhi> ty con khdng chi phdl
nhilu d i n mijc dd TCDGT cOa con ddi vdi m?.
3) Tinh cho ddng giao tiip cua TN v6l cha

Theo TDG cOa TN [bdng 5J, d hdu h i t cdc
tigu chr, tr 1$ TN TDG minh cd TCDGT vdl cha d
mi>c dd thd'p ehilm khd ddng, nhung trong
rthdm TCDGT d muc cao Iqi cd tf l | khd ft. Ddl
chilu vdl kit qud nghign ci>u TCE>GT cOa con
ddi vdi m^, chOng tdl nh$n thd'y, cd sy khdc
bi|t khd rd n i t v l tf 1$ d hai nhdm mi>c dd TCD

Quan sdt blAj 66 2, ehOng tdl nhdn thdy:
TCDGT vdl cho cuo cdc nlidm TN d i u d ml)c hung
binh. Cd SI/ ehlnh l#ch v l DTB giOa cdc nhdm
nhung khdng cd y nghTo thdng k l .
Cdt chilu DTB TCDGT cOa T N vdl cho vd vdi
m9 chung tdi nhdn thdy: nhln chung, DTB cOa
TCDGT vdi cha cda TN d ede tilu chi d i u d cdn
dudi cuo DTB (tl^m edn 1 ,d7], nhung DTB oia
TCDGT vdi m? d cdc nhdm TN khdc nhou diu
nim edn 2,34 (cdn hdn cOa muc DTB). K^ qud
ndy edng khdng d|nh si/ khde bi#t v l TCD hong
GT cOo TN vdl cha vd me.
So sdnh btl'u ^ 1 vd 2 ed i h l thdy si/ khdc

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bi^t dlln ra ro nit hon d 3 tigu chf: gidl Hnh, hlye vd thd ty con. N l u nhu cd HS_nam vd HS nu
d i u cd TCDGT d mdc trung binh (Jr = 1,911 trong
GT vdi m? thi trong GT vdl eho cdc em nam cht d
muc dd thdp {X= },56). cdn DTB TCD cOo ni>

Irong GT vdl cha van dgt 1,97 vd sy khdc bi$t
ndy I d cd y nghTo v l mdt thdng kg. TCDGT vdl
cho cd xu t h i gidm ddn d^nhChig HS cd h^cjyc
trung binh - y l u (HS gidl X =_1,89, HS khd Xm
1,81 vd HS trung binli - y l u ;i: - 1,67). Ddl vdl
nhung HS Id con ut I9I kim chu ddng Irong GT
vdi cho. Kit qud ndy cd phdn ddi tdp vdl sd llgu
thu dupe v l TCDGT eOa TN vdi m?, edng nhOng
TN Id con 01 Iqi cdng gdn gul vdl m^ nhilu hem.
Tim hllu nguygn nhdn cOa ihyc trgng trgn,
chung tdl nh0n v\iy: • V I phfo phy huynh: hg
cho rang, hign nay cdc em cd qud nhilu mdi
quan tdm khde (hgc l$p, bgn bg, cdc trd gidl
tri...) ngn khdng ed nhllu ihdl gion chia si, tdm
sy vdi cho me. Tuy nhign, do sd HS kpl thi>a nhdn
rdng cdc em it chO ddng GT vdi bd m^ Id do: Cha n>9 vd con khdng cung i h l h | ngn quan dllm,
suy nghi khdc nhou, dSn den khdng ttm lh£fy liing
ndl chung Irong qud trinh chlo s6; - Cho m? ludn
dung quyin uy cuo mtnh d l dp ddt suy nghT vd
hdnh vl cua eon edi khiln ede em rn$e edm, ly ti;
- Cha me khdng c6 thdi glan gdn gul con,...
3 . Vigc ttm hilu TCDGT vdl cha m? cua TN
cho thdy, da si khdeh thi dugc nghidn cdu cd
TCDGTvdld)am?dmOctwngbinh.T^cdTCDGr
vdi m? coo hon so vdi cha nhung sy khde blgt Id
khdng Idn. Khdng ed sy khdc blgtvl mi>c dd chu
d$ng trong GT cOa ede nhdm TN vdi m?, nhung
Igl cd sy ktec bi$t trong GT cua TN vdl cha. NhOng
1>l Id nam, con Ot, hgc lye trung btnh - y l u cd
muc d$ cho dgng GT vdi cha Indp hon so vdi

nhung em nu, con ed hodc hgc lye khd gidi. HS
cung da dua ra nhilu If do khiln ehOng khdng
cho ddng hovdi cha m^: vj ihlciJa cdc em trong gia dinh, cha
mg bdn r$n fio^c khdng quan tdm, hot r i cung <^ nhung li do rigng cda minh. Nhung
hdu hit cdc em d i u ihOo nhdn nlu cho mf gdn
gui vdi con c^l, chung sg d l ddng troo ddi, chO
ddng chlo s i vdi cha m^ nhilu hon. Q
Tdi li^u tham khdo
1. Ngd COng Ho^n. Tfim U h^c gia dinh. NXB D^i
hQC suphgm Hd N0,1993.
2. Le Titfn HOng. Nifim vul cda cha m?. NXB Ph^i na.
H.1978.
3. V.I. Ubedfip. Tflm Uxfi h^l trong qudn If. NXB Sit
rWr,H. 1989.

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4. Dure Minti. Gi((o dMC gla dinh vjk tull thifu nl£n.
NXB Pft{jntf,H. 1977.
5. Ptiil McGraw. Gla dinh trCo h€t. NXB Vdn hda
thdng tin, H. 2005.
SUMMARY

Ihe article focuses to learn about the actlveness
of teenagers In the process of communicating with
parents: pointing out the deferences In actlveness level
of teeriagers In different groups, the differences In the
actlveness of youth In the process of communtoatlon

with parents.

Bl^n phap klem tra toan dlen...
(Tiip theo trang 10)
KTTD cd vol trd quon trgng, bdl thdng quo dd
HT KT mgl hogt ddng su phgm, vi|c thyc hi|n
quy e h l chuygn mdn cOa GV trong lung giai dogn
vd cd ndm hgc; ddnh gid dugc chuygn mdn thudng
xuygn cuo tOng GV, duy trt nin n i p thye hign
quy c h i chuygn mdn eOa nhd trudng ndl chung
vd cOa mdi GV ndi rigng. Bi^n phdp KTTD eOng
bdc l6 mdt si tdn tgl nhdt djnh dd Id: KTTD khd
cd t h i ddnh gid dugc c^fnh xdc bdi ddi luong KT
cd thi chudn bj idt khi k l hoqch dd dugc edng
khol ngn khdng phdn dnh dug*e thyc chdt chuygn
mdn ei3a mSl GV. Chfnh vi vdy edn ed sy kll n ^
vdi cdc hinh thuc KT khdc iht kit qud KT, chdt
lugng chuygn mdn cuo GV mdl dugc tdng cudng
vd khdng ngung ndng coo. •
Tdi U(u tham khdo
1. BO GD-DT. niOng tustf 43/2006/rr-BGDDT ngiy
20/10/2006 "Hudng diln thanh tra to^n di$n nhi
tniiyng, CO sd gido dgc khdc vd thanh tra ho^t dOng sir
phfim cfia nhii gido"
2. Chi thi 3399/CT-BGD4:DT ngdy 16/8/2010 ciia
Bo tnidng Bo GD-DT v£ nhi$m vy tr^ng tdm cQa gido
dye mdm non, gido dijc ph6 thOng, gido dye thudng
xuyen ndm hgc 2010-2011 vd chuong trinh thanh tra
cda thanh tra BO Gido dye & Ddo tfio.
3. BO GD-DT. "Hudng ddn thyc hi^n nhi^m vy thanh

tra nam hpc 2011-2012 " (sd5859/BGDDT-Trrngdy
5/9/2011).
SUMMARY

Comprehensive examlnatton of teachers has an
imporfcff^t slgnlfk:ance: ti^f^ng principals accurately
and otijectlv^ examhe informatUnn on ^^eckiiized
activities and quality of Implementing the regukstlon
of speclc^lzed affair of tea&^ers... At ttie scxne time, tt
can also help teachers
s^-ac^tt)elnv:^ementatton
the regulation ofspeclcdized affoir and Imfxove their
own teaching capacity. The article presents several
measures ofcompr^my^ve exarr^natton of specked
affo^ for principals of primary schools In TuKy districtHai[)uor\g.