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Daytime
Pick-Up
Revealed
The Art of Meeting, Connecting and
Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls,
College Campuses, and Anywhere Under
the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved
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Table of ConTenTs
IntroductIon 4
A Word on consIstency 5
GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl 6
WArnInG! 7
Section 1:
the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You
cAn hAndle 8
WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8
An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9
WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10
creAtInG A vIsIon 11
ActInG on your plAn 12
4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13
IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14
Section 2:
the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS 17
FActor 1: Inner strenGth 17
FActor 2: IdentIty 24
FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue 28

FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon 34
FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon 41
FActor 6: coMFort & trust 47
FActor 7: loGIstIcs 51
FActor 8: InvestMent 53
Section 3:
putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS,
rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl 54
KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen 54
Where to Meet WoMen 55
Be In tune WIth the enerGy level 56
crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen 57
BreAKInG doWn the opener 58
deAlInG WIth contInGencIes 60
GIFt shIFt theory 61
the pInG ponG MetAphor 63
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Go FIrst prIncIple 64
poWer tAlK 65
WhAt to do AFter InItIAtInG the conversAtIon 66
you Must creAte A connectIon 66
hoW to AnsWer lIGht rApport QuestIons 67
BuIldInG suBstAnce: ActIve lIstenInG, FIndInG her core vAlue,
And leAdInG WIth your pAssIons 71
leAdInG WIth your pAssIons 74
A couple oF eFFectIve conversAtIonAl tools 75
here’s A conversAtIon I hAd In the pAst 78
BuIldInG FAMIlIArIty & suBstAnce 80
the Art oF GettInG phone nuMBers & settInG up dAtes 82

8 tIps For An unForGettABle FIrst dAte 86
on creAtInG A sexuAl vIBe 87
When & hoW to KIss her 89
FroM coFFee shop, MAll, superMArKet to the BedrooM:
the nAturAl proGressIon 89
Words oF WIsdoM 92
WrAppInG It All up 94
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First of all, I want to congratulate you.

You’ve taken the rst step toward improving yourself. I know there’s a lot of
information out there and, quite frankly, it can be overwhelming.

Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve
absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book.

What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. Anyone,
regardless of age and experience, can benet from this manual.

Over the years, I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my
pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups.

In the process, I came up with over 2,000 pages lled with discoveries, theories,
and tactics on meeting women during the daytime.

2,000 pages? Yes.

I’ve compressed it all into this book. I don’t want you to take a year to see
results. I want you to succeed now.

So I came up with a manual that anyone, even my 8-year-old cousin, would
understand.

I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. I learned from my past failures, hanging
out with guys that were good with women, and trial and error.

It was a long and painful process but, at that time, I really had no other option.
Worst of all, I had to learn how pick up women from scratch.

Back then, there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and
clubs” context. There were no gurus, books, videos, or workshops that focused
on daytime pick-up.

It didn’t stop me though. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part
of my life handled. I just needed to know how to operate in the eld.

After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls, streets,
beaches, coffee shops, and college campuses, I’ve developed a step by step
system that will allow anyone, with the right combination of passion, dedication,
and perseverance to become successful with women, by choice.

InTroduCTIon
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There’s a catch though… You have to want it.

You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in
this area of your life.

So now, I want you to sit back, relax, and keep an open mind. You’re about to
begin your journey.

I promise you won’t regret it.
Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency.
You can have the best techniques, the best system, and the best coach out
there, but without consistency, it’s all worthless.

Over the past three years, I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have
successfully transformed their dating lifestyle. Eventhough they were from
different walks of life and trained differently, there was always one common
denominator. Day in day out, they each followed their pre-determined plan,
consistently, without fail, and without excuses.

There are many ways to achieve your goal, but you will never reach it unless you
consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. You must nd the
determination, passion, and drive within yourself to see this through. If you don’t
get this part of your life handled right now, then when will you?

Treat this like going to college to get a degree. You won’t be in college forever,
and you will not be guring out this part of your life forever - only a few months!
This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself, would you be willing to
experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to
achieve the lifestyle of your dreams - or will you continue to be an “average
Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take?

It’s time to make a decision. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys
who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. Now, make
a stand, and choose wisely.

First of all, this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems
overnight.

It doesn’t work that way.

You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn.

a Word on ConsIsTenCy
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I want you to approach this as you, would when you’re trying to develop a skill.
The more you practice, the better you become.

It’s similar to learning a sport. You need to practice several times a week, if you
want to become competent.
There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. You need the
right information and the ability to put that information into practice.

I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be
enough. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn.

It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success.

I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you, so be prepared. Some of them
will be helpful to your current situation. Most of them, you will need in the future.

Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. Read through it once or twice
and absorb whatever you can. Come back and read the individual section
from time to time.

Read, absorb, and integrate the information you learn.

Don’t ever, ever be satised with just learning this stuff, practice it! Don’t go jump
right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you
learn here.

Keep practicing, reading, and using it until you have it all down!

Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas, comments, complaints, or just a
simple “Hi” note if you will. I want to know what you think. You can drop me a
line at
Let’s Rock n Roll!
GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual
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Now that we’re nished with the warning, let’s learn how to be successful with women
during the daytime
WarnInG!
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Section 1:
the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen
thAn You cAn hAndle
In this section, I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before
the approach, and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make
myself more successful with women.
Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street?
Most likely you have. The question is, ”What Did You Do About It?
Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as
she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by?
If you didn’t do anything, then that’s normal. I have yet to meet someone
who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that
catches his eye.
I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off, and believe me, they are rare.
What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me, I’m sure you wanted to
accomplish something. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your
social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day?
If you answered yes to any one of those, then day game just might be the
answer.
Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman, outside of bars and clubs,
build an emotional connection, get them on dates, and have the possibility of
starting a relationship with them.
It’s not luck, as most may think, it’s a skill set.

Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday?
Women of all types of beauty are not hard to nd, they roam around malls,
beaches, supermarkets, and coffee shops every single day.
Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands, shop, relax, have fun
and a whole list of other reasons. The best thing about it is that YOU could
potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how.
WhaT Is day GaMe?
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What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and
have something positive result from almost all of your interactions?
Would you think I’m nuts?
Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. I should
know. I’ve had a history of being a salesman.
Several years ago, I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth
in the middle of a mall, trying to get people to buy our products. I’d always be
shouting “Hey sir, do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada
yada.
It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a
chance to get to know the customer. Heck, I didn’t even know their name. I
learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must, and it
did make sense.
If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the
customer, then there would be no need for salespeople.
Occasionally, people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had
to say. But, more often than not, they’d just continue walking.
What does sales have to do with being successful with girls?
Everything.
If you think about it, the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that
are successful with women, is their ability to communicate with people.

Communication is key in everything that we do. I’ll talk more about this in the
upcoming chapters. Now, let’s get back to my story…
After failing to produce results in my job, I tried and experimented with a lot
of different techniques, and that’s when I learned something… If my initial
approach was unique, then people usually gave me a bit of their time.
Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What
happened?
an eye opener on Cold approaChInG
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You probably heard them open with a familiar line like:
“Hey what’s going on?”
“Nice weather…”
“It’s a pretty long line, isn’t it”
Chances are you reply with some sort of answer, depending on your mood. Then
the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or
just simply turn around and carry on with your business.
Looking back, why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were
you interested in getting to know them as a person?
Chances are it was out of politeness.
How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How
do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off?
I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers
that you say when you get the same question. If you can relate to this scenario
then
Women get approached or hit on all the time. They’ve developed tolerance to
men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction.
It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes.
There are a lot of whackos out there.

The rst thing you need to do is nd a way to bypass her social lters. What does
that mean?
You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. Your goal is to
get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led.
Make or Break Moment
The rst couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or
break moment.
It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because
it opens the door for escalating the conversation.
WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy
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It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. Just because
someone opens the door, it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever
you want.

Women will usually, if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills
down, open the door for you a little bit. But don’t expect them to be all over you
after you’ve initiated the conversation.
That’s just setting yourself up for failure.
I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. We all have
things to do and people to see. Most of the people you meet out there will have
a very short attention span.
Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three
minutes to captivate their interest. That’s your window of opportunity, there are
no second chances if you mess it up.
A lot of your time, when you rst start out, will be focused on perfecting the rst
few minutes of the interaction. It will be your rst road block to success.
Do you know where you’re heading?
If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming.

If you want to be successful with women, there’s one thing you need to do rst.
You have to set a goal for yourself. If you don’t have one, then by the end of this
section, you should have one.
Goal setting is very important for various reasons. It gives you an overall direction
so you know where you’re going. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re
working toward something that will benet you in the long run.
It motivates you and keeps you on track. If you have a vision of what you want
your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. If it’s something you
really want then you WILL achieve it.
A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut
off. They have no goals set for themselves.
So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions. Have a pen and
paper ready. Don’t skip this part. You’ll nd it very useful on your journey.
CreaTInG a vIsIon
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Realistically speaking, what do you really want to accomplish? You’re
obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be
successful with women. What’s in it for you in the long run? Like, in 10
years, where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by
then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to
be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want
to be?
How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal?
Have you set daily, weekly, and monthly goals to ensure that you’re
constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need
to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent
and committed to getting this part of your life handled?

That’s just for starters. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid
vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to
accomplish that.
Okay you have your plan, now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless
you put it to work.
I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to
swell. One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power, it’s potential power.
Once you’ve gured out what you want, the next step is to stick to your plan no
matter what happens until you start to see results.
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aCTInG on your plan
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Know exactly what you want to accomplish. If you haven’t done this by now,
then don’t continue reading. Put the book down and start working on it.

For example: “In six months, I want to have the ability to date three new girls that
I meet in the mall, every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend
that’s half my age, and has a kick ass personality”.



Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal. What steps
are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take
and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan.

For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a
week, I should get my skill set to that level. I need to interact with seven
new girls three times a week for six months. I should always be pushing

the interaction as far as it can go every time. I shouldn’t commit the same
mistake again. After six months, I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a
girl for 30 minutes, and schedule a date with her at the end.”

Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot
women. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and
learn how to be comfortable in their presence. I’ll try to go on as many
dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. I’m also going to
work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship
material.”
Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your
life handled. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes
sure you’re on the right track.

For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. It was fun but I just
can’t seem to get her to open up to me. I’m going to look for resources
out there that will solve the problem for me. Or I can look for someone
qualied to help me out. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized
and individualized attention. After getting advice, I’ll make sure to
implement the things I learned right away.”




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4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG
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Review all your results, nd the strong and weak points, then make the
necessary adjustments. This is the only way to keep progressing.

For example: “Last month, I got ve numbers and out of those numbers,
three girls called me back. This month I got eight numbers but none of
them called me back. So I need to review all my interactions and see
where I’m screwing things up. Did I build enough emotional connection
with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily
without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling
her more often…”

This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress.
You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism.
This is an essential skill to develop.
I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever
available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase
your success with women.
You see, I’ve identied a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be
addressed if you want to maximize your success rate!
You must rst understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to
meet, connect, and date the woman of your choice.
The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up,
starting from your core, then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part
of the interaction.
The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive
foundation for daytime pick-up. In order to efciently improve your skills, I
suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book.
Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up
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InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors

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FACTOR 1: INNER STRENGTH
We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. I’ll discuss inner
strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid
foundation .
Don’t worry, I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need. I’m
condent that by the end of this book, you’ll have a basic understanding of
what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over
other guys.
FACTOR 2: IDENTITY
Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even
worse, why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t
develop the ability to convey their identity.
I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively
communicate who you are as a person.
FACTOR 3: LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE

This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there. I’ll explain to you
the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your
interactions.
I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls
out there.
FACTOR 4: COMMUNICATION
Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. A lot of guys don’t
know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. They lose
a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective
communication.
I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP
seminars. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women.

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FACTOR 5: EMOTIONAL CONNECTION
Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”.
This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to nd out
why! I go over specic time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a
long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even
after you’re gone!
This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going
on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional
connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her
in this type of interaction.
FACTOR 6: COMFORT AND TRUST

Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the
women they meet. This chapter talks about the things you must do
and avoid.
FACTOR 7: LEADING & LOGISTICS

If you haven’t learned yet, let me be the rst to tell you… Logistics is
one thing that you do not have full control over. I’ll give you a couple
of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction
by utilizing our logistic planning method.
In this chapter, I’ll show you specically how to get the girl from the
mall to your bedroom!
FACTOR 8: INVESTMENT
In order for anyone to be successful with women, he must rst master
the art of making her invest in the interaction.
Look no further! In this chapter, I’ve compiled the most comprehensive
approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the

number of women aking on you. I’ve decided to just go all out and
reveal four major investment categories.
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Section 2:
the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS
I know that most of you just want to learn what to say, in other words, “the lines”.
I don’t blame you at all, I was the same as you when I rst started out. You want
to know what happened several years later?
I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself rst, things would have
been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and
understand this section rst before you go onto the next one.
A lot of successful guys, I know, have one thing in common. This is the one thing
that fuels them day in and day out. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel.
It’s the driving force behind all their successes.
I’ve tried to put my nger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to gure
out what it was. I used to think to myself, “What does this guy have that I don’t, I
mean, we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. There’s
something about him that makes him complete as a person.”
I really thought I would never gure it out Until this one day came.
My friend and I were just chatting about life. I hadn’t seen him in years because
he was stationed in Iraq. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. I
always wondered how he was able to do it.
So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what
you did. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were
stationed in Iraq, what were you thinking of?”

He replied:
“All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. Most people
probably hated being there, I just accepted it. I knew there would be a lot of

people who’d be negative about the experience. I had that choice. I had two
choices: should I go through all of this hardship, be negative all the time, and be
the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period
with my head held up high, cherish every moment of my journey, and end up to
be a better person? I chose the latter. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed
beyond a shadow of a doubt. Failure just wasn’t an option for me.”
faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh
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I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments.
These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do, they
always hit me hard over the head.
You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even
Know It!
We all walk through this world with our beliefs. These beliefs have been
integrated into our being, probably since we were little kids. What we believe
in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. There are a lot of
factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. Examples of such
factors are
FRIENDS
FAMILY
SCHOOL SYSTEM
SOCIETY
MEDIA
CULTURE
ENVIRONMENT

WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors inuencing us. Sad to say, we’ve been
programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women.
Let’s start out with media and advertising.

Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning…
For the most part, we live in a society that’s driven by money, power, or fame.
The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. Not only that, they
set the standard of what is cool, attractive, and desirable.
Let’s take on the subject of appearance.
Contrary to popular belief, appearance isn’t everything. You can still get laid
even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. You
can get a girl even if you’re not rich, not well built, or not tall. You can make a
beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race!
All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute.
Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second. This is true for both men and
women alike.
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Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the
answer to this one:
Celebrities
Attractive and t people
Rich people
And everything else I forgot to mention
Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here?
Where can you nd the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of
a magazine, where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial
features modied to intimidate almost anyone.
The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is
hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here), I need to
buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…”
Same thing for a guy “Oh, that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. He’s rich,
tall, famous… He even has the fastest car around, he has this sick ass watch,
and…”

To make the long story short, both the man and woman in this example end up
concluding
“In order to be desirable, cool, and up to date I need to have this, be this, and
join this…”
And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was
that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in
order to be cool.
The truth is… YOU DON’T
Yeah being rich, tall, famous helps but it’s not the only way. Anyone armed with
the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of
woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking, famous, and rich!

IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE!

Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality?
Your thoughts become your words.

Your words become your actions.

Your belief becomes who you are.
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What if I told you that everything that you believe in, only if you really really
believed in it, becomes who you are? Would you believe me?
You better, because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs, you too can
be successful with women. This is where everyone should start regardless of
their goal.
What if you can reprogram your entire self, so you can move through the world
naturally attracting people in your life?
Before I hear any objections, you’re not going to be someone you’re not. You’re

just going to be a better version of yourself.
You have to live up to your full potential. It makes me sad to see all the guys out
there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. If only I could
snap them out of their trance… but then again, that would be too idealistic
of me.
Alright, back to my story.
After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you, my whole world
changed, literally before my very own eyes. I adopted bits and pieces of his
philosophy in life, and went on a journey to seek the truth. Ever since then I
began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions, struggles, and
relationships that I’ve had.
And that’s when it occurred to me that…
YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE, BELIEVE, BELIEVE!
I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. These have been
very useful for me and hopefully will be for you.
Change will not occur overnight, but the sooner you start believing, the faster
you’ll get to your destination. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked
for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m
about to share with you.
Here’s how this works. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found
to be very useful in my journey. For the next 30 days, I want you to go over this
chapter again and again. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and
believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. I will also provide you with exercises so
your belief is reinforced with real world results.
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INNER STRENGTH LESSON 1: MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS

Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone?
Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that

damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides, I don’t
know what to say” speech playing in your head?
Let me ask you this, how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t
even approached her yet?
Okay, but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more
times than I can think of…
Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop
eating right? Every girl is different. Every situation is different. If you believe that
everything you say or do is valuable, then it will be valuable to others.
Starting now, I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to
others.

I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just
loved you. The time when, all of a sudden, people were hanging off every word
you said. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself.
TRY THIS OUT
I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were
indeed valuable to other people. I want you to remember the times when you
made several people feel good about themselves.

Got that memory? How does it make you feel?

Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What
did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you
should feel before talking to anyone. You’re doing them a favor by talking to
them.

Try this out, next time before you talk to someone, imagine that you’re about to
give them a million bucks in the next ve minutes, how does that change the
way you act toward them? Try it out.

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INNER STRENGTH LESSON 2: TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO
YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS!
There’s one thing that you will realize later on…
You can do anything you want, whenever you want, wherever you want. And
you can get away with it.
Once again, we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for
“permission” to do something we want to do.
Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission
every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. Well, by the time you got
to college, you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t
you?
Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. Do you think he ever asked
permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off?
Nope, he just had a plan, executed it, and never looked back.
So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you?
You are your own boss. You have permission to go after the things you want
in life. You have permission to be the best that you can be. And you have
permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. You have
permission to change your beliefs.
I want you to live life like you own the world. Everything is yours. You do not need
anyone’s approval before you do something. You do not need permission to
dress in a certain way. You already have it in you.

It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in.
Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life:
It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Next
time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot, just
go ahead and sit down. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it.

Make your own decision and take your own stand. Don’t wait for others
to tell you what to do. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. You
can do them yourself. Always voice out your opinions. Don’t be afraid
to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. Don’t
be afraid to spark tension. Always say what’s on your mind, if you don’t
agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that.


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Learn how to say “No”. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you
have to give it a shot. Just try saying it. It’s not that bad. You’ll notice
that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront.
You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man. If it’s reasonable and
you’re up for it then say “yes”. If it will compromise you or for some reason
you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”.
I’m not trying to impress you. This boils down to being who you are despite
what other people think. Don’t ever change just because someone else
wants you to. Don’t be ashamed of your past, background, or status. Be
proud, stand tall, and don’t bow down to someone just because you
perceive them as being better than you. One motto you can use is “I’m
not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to
impress me”.
TRY THIS OUT
Let’s start out with simple exercises. The next time you’re about to line up, and
someone gets there the same time you did, don’t hesitate to just smile and take
the spot rst.

When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks”
Don’t hesitate to raise your hand rst and say “Over here”.

Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time
about it just smile and say “Thank you”.
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Do you know what people think of the rst time they meet you?
Do you know the rst thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you
approach her?
Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting
you?
“Who in the world is this guy?”
So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You?
Trust me, every single person you meet will wonder who you are. They ask you
questions for a purpose. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a
person.
Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. The clothes you
wear, the stories you tell, and the way you present yourself to others, all of these
play an important role in establishing your identity.
So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is
dedicated to the subject of identity.

It All Started When You Were A Kid
“There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born
and the moment they realize why they were born.” - Mark Sanborne
So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven?

When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. I wanted to be that
guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar. I wanted to be that guy in the
spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody.
It seemed just like yesterday, when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick
trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses.
Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me, I don’t really know. Maybe because
it looked cool on television. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be
famous worldwide. Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time.


faCTor 2: IdenTITy
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The truth is, I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a
car with a bunch of friends. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my
song on the radio. That’s when it struck me.
I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid.
I didn’t stray away from it.
I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me…
“Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless, you’re better of just
having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income”
Unfortunately, when I was a kid, I had no other choice but to listen to what
everyone said. Becoming a musician was a dream. It really came from the heart
but at such an early age, I was easily inuenced by my parents, peers, and
teachers.
Now that I look back, I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when
we were little. As a result of growing up, we tend to stop feeling and just start
thinking.
Not that thinking it’s a bad thing, we just need a balance of both.

One of my favorite sculptors, Michelangelo, once said “The Sculpture is already
in the stone” and I never forgot that.
It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me.
It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away
pieces of his sculpture, he was already done before he started. Yes, the product
was already nished, all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary
stuff.
I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. We were all
created unique and special. We were born to experience life and with that
experience we grow and we learn. We become better versions of ourselves.
Success is in already inside all of us.

So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old?
How to Discover Who You Are
I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. Here are several ways to discover
who you are.
I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. You’ll need
some time to work on this. This is a very important section in this book. If there’s
one thing I want you to accomplish after you nish reading this book, then this is it.