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10 Ways to Buy Happiness
By Lena Sin/ Source: The Province
Money should make you happy. At least, it should if you're spending it right.
That's the argument put forth by University of B.C. psychology professor
Elizabeth Dunn. In a paper co-authored by two world-renowned experts on
happiness, Daniel Gilbert of Harvard University and Timothy Wilson of the
University of Virginia, Dunn argues that most people are terrible at
predicting what will make them happy, leading them to routinely spend
money on all the wrong things.
"Money is an opportunity for happiness, but it is an opportunity that people
routinely squander because the things they think will make them happy often
don't," write Dunn and her colleagues.
For decades, researchers have known that money buys happiness, but only
up to a point.
Research shows that wealthy people are not significantly happier than those
with moderate incomes and according to conventional wisdom, that's
because many of the things that make us happy aren't for sale.
Dunn and her co-authors of the paper, "If Money Doesn't Make You Happy,
Then You Probably Aren't Spending It Right" to be published in the
upcoming Journal of Consumer Psychology adamantly disagree with that
assertion.
They boldly suggest that if you spend wisely, "money can buy many, if not
most, if not all of the things that make people happy."
Drawing on their research, The Province presents 10 ways to better spend
your money.
1. Buy many small lovely things rather than one big one
Go ahead, buy yourself that $4 latte.
Ever had an economist tell you how easily a $4 latte at work every morning
will quickly add up to a staggering yearly sum of $1,040? And wouldn't you
rather spend that kind of money on something bigger, like a vacation or
home theatre system? Well, the answer may be no.


It may well be that a latte a day, or every few days, will make you happier
than a single big-ticket item once a year.
"This is not to say that there's anything wrong with large purchases," writes
Dunn. "But as long as money is limited by its failure to grow on trees, we
may be better off devoting our finite financial resources to purchasing
frequent doses of lovely things rather than infrequent doses of lovelier
things."
One reason why small, frequent pleasures beats one large infrequent one is
because we're creatures of adaptation.
"If we buy an expensive dining room table it's pretty much the same table
today as it was last week. Because frequent small pleasures are different
each time they occur, they forestall adaptation," says Dunn.
Research also tells us that breaking up a pleasurable experience into a series
of experiences can help maximize joy, something frequent coffee drinker
Eva Sajoo, of Vancouver, seems to understand innately.
"Certainly I get a lot of pleasure out of a very well-crafted cup of coffee,"
she says. "But I think you enjoy it more if you don't have it every day."
2. Savour the cheap joys of life
Cozy up to a movie on a rainy day. Or go out for a walk on a bright
summer's day.
Not only are these simple pleasures often cheap, or better yet, free, but
savouring the mundane joys of life will make you happier, according to
research.
"In a study of Belgian adults, individuals who had a strong capacity to
savour the mundane joys of daily life were happier than those who did not,"
writes Dunn.
Interestingly, the same study found this capacity to savour "mundane joys"
was significantly reduced among wealthy individuals. That may be because
the wealthy have unfettered access to "peak experiences," which undermines
their ability to appreciate smaller moments.

3. Practice 'presence' for an extra jolt of joy
Spending money on yoga retreats, meditation DVDs or self-help books isn't
just for hippies or the spiritually inclined.
Scientific research is now also extolling the benefits of becoming more
"present" or "engaged" which activities such as yoga are said to help you
achieve.
Researchers have found that people who are more fully engaged in an
experience will get more enjoyment from it.
"A wandering mind is an unhappy mind," Dunn and colleagues sum up
succinctly.
Vancouver yoga teacher Jacci Collins says she's experienced firsthand the
positive effects of presence.
"I use not only my physical practice of yoga, but my meditation practice as a
way of just trying to bring me back into my life, because sometimes, life just
spins out of control and the days are going by so quickly. And when you're
aware of what you're doing at every moment, somehow you have more
appreciation for every moment," says Collins.
4. Buy experiences, not things
Follow in the footsteps of 19,000 screaming teens who spent $60 on a Justin
Bieber concert last week, rather than squandering it at the mall. That's right,
these 19,000 "Bielebers" were made happier simply by spending their
money on an experience rather than a thing.
If happiness can be bought, then it's essential to get the buying right,
according to Dunn and colleagues.
"Experiences are good, but why are they better than things? One reason is
that we adapt to things so quickly. After devoting days to selecting the
perfect hardwood floor to install in a new condo, homebuyers find their once
beloved Brazilian cherry floors quickly become nothing more than the
unnoticed ground beneath their feet," writes Dunn. "In contrast, their
memory of seeing a baby cheetah at dawn on an African safari continues to

provide delight."
Mark Holder, associate professor of psychology at the University of B.C.
Okanagan and a happiness expert, adds that the difference in happiness
gained from a material object versus an experience is most acute after two
weeks.
"When we spend, we don't tend to savour our big screen TVs, but we do
tend to savour our experiences with others. We relive them through
photographs, for example, we relive them by telling stories and by reliving,
those people are happier," says Holder.
5. Spend on others, not yourself
Next time you think of buying something for yourself, buy it for a friend
instead. Spending on others will make you happier, not only because it
makes you look good (thereby boosting your mood), but because spending
on others is a legitimate way to improve our connections with others,
according to Dunn.
While this advice may seem to make sense, especially in light of how often
we're reminded that "giving is receiving," it's surprising how many people
disbelieve it, says Lara Aknin, a graduate student working with Dunn.
A 2008 survey of more than 100 UBC students conducted by Aknin found
that a significant majority of students believed money spent on themselves
would make them happier than if it were spent on others.
"There's this disconnect between what people believe will make them happy
and what actually does," says Aknin. "People aren't that good at making
good predictions because their look-ahead is plagued by all these errors, and
we forget that when we look into the future we're not going to be in the exact
same state that we are now."
6. Buy less insurance
Next time you're asked if you want to buy a warranty, say no. Businesses
have long capitalized on our tendency to underestimate how well we cope
with traumas, tragedies or just plain old bad luck. By offering an insurance

against "unhappiness" from extended warranties to insurance policies, we're
actually spending more than we need to guard against negative situations.
Dunn explains that just as we have a physical immune system to ward off
disease, our psychological immune system has a remarkable ability to
reconstruct and rationalize a negative situation into a positive one: "Ordinary
people are remarkably adept at reconstruing events in order to avoid self-
blame and the regret that accompanies it."
7. Delay, delay, delay consumption
Don't be tempted by those optimistic sales campaigns that proclaim "No
money down!" or "Don't pay for six months."
If you wait till you have the cash to purchase the product or service, you'll
get an extra jolt of happiness, says Dunn.
There are a couple of reasons for this. One is that the "consume now, pay
later" mentality leads people to short-sighted behaviour, such as racking up
debts or saving little for retirement decisions that can ruin lives, argues
Dunn.
But another, less obvious reason why delayed consumption leads to more
happiness is because "anticipation is a source of 'free' happiness."
"Research shows people can reap substantial enjoyment from anticipation of
an upcoming event even if the event itself is not entirely enjoyable,"
according to Dunn.
8. Happiness is in the details
Who hasn't dreamt of owning a vacation home say, a waterfront cabin or
ski chalet? Well, those dream homes may be more of a mirage in a desert.
Humans are adept at imagining, but tend to skip over the details, seeing the
future in "simple, high-level ways," argues Dunn.
That means while we're picturing the glassy waters of a lakeside retreat,
finer details like calls about a plumbing disaster, or long drives home after
the vacation, or the constant buzz of mosquitoes while you're enjoying your
glass of wine tend to recede in the background.

"Consumers who expect a single purchases to have a lasting impact on their
happiness might make more realistic predictions if they simply thought
about a typical day in their life," Dunn advises.
9. Don't shop around
Save your time and refrain from comparison shopping. Recent research
suggests that comparison shopping may distract consumers from the
attributes that will make them happiest, by making them focusing on the
differences between available options.
Dunn gives the familiar example of shopping for real estate, in which would-
be buyers typically attend countless open houses and viewings and scrutinize
spec sheets for features and information on each home.
"As a result, home buyers might overestimate the hedonic consequences of
living in a big, beautiful house in a great location vs. a more modest home,
leading them to take out a larger loan than they can truly afford, " argues
Dunn.
The same process may also lead consumers to seek out products that provide
the "best deal," which is not always the product that makes them happiest.
10. Follow the herd
Can't decide which book to read? Movie to watch? Next vacation? The
easiest way to get promising "happiness" results is to follow the herd.
"Research suggests that the best way to predict how much we will enjoy an
experience is to see how much someone else enjoyed it," explains Dunn.
So chances are, summer blockbusters are as likely to bring us as much joy as
they did the thousands of other people who've seen them.
A 2009 study drives home the point: Women were asked to predict how
much they would enjoy a speed date with a particular man. Some women
were shown his photo and autobiography. A second group were shown only
the rating of how much other women enjoyed the date.
Think the vast majority of women shown the photo and autobiography
would make a more accurate prediction? The opposite proved true.

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