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The noble truth about platonic relationships between men and women

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The noble truth about platonic relationships between
men and women.
There is no other disparity more glaring than the issue with “We are just friends” between men and
women. And it never ceases to amuse me how men and women can look at the same situation from
two completely different angles.

True story: There are more times than I can remember, asking a female friend if she’s seeing that
guy whom she’s been spending time with, and her instant response would be “God no we’re just
friends!”

Right there! Her justification to be able to continue hanging out with him comfortably without any
social stigma stick up her bottom: that she has no sexual tension, that she simply just doesnt see
him “that way”.

I could place a million-dollar bet that if the guy was asked about the nature of their relationship, his
answer would be something along the lines of “I haven’t hit that yet, but why not if I get the chance?!”

As much as I’d love to believe differently, the sad truth is, men and women cant just be friends.
No matter how altruistic and pure-intentioned we think we’re capable of being. It just doesnt work
that way.

A woman can look at a male in her life and gently labels him with the “friend” tag, with no intention of
removing that tag, ever! (The dreaded infamous Friend Zone) While a men will look at that same
woman and labels her “a chick he’s just yet to sleep with”.

So in keeping with hat honesty, here’s my confession: I’ve always been a girl who enjoyed hanging
out with the boys more than my own gender. Sure, I have lovely girl friends who I thoroughly
appreciate and value. That type of female camaraderie is precious! But that said, with very few
exceptions, I’ve always been more comfortable amongst the Y chromosomes. Room full of dudes?
My favourite place to be. Room full of females? My own personal version of hell. Even still, I’m under
no delusions about the nature of our “friendship”. And any women out there who isnt aware of it, well


you should be. At least then you’ll be conscious about keeping things appropriate.

I honestly dont mean to sound disparaging to my fellow females, but there are things we just cant
disagree on: Guys are moer low maintenance, transparent and they carry with them very little
drama. We, on the other hand, can be finicky, passive aggressive and tend to place ourselves and
our friendships into a social hierarchy in which inevitably someone gets left out. And to top it all, of
course, the dramas.

So standing from where I am right now, I totally understand why some woman gravitate towards guy-
time. We just need to realize and keep in mind that the sexes have entirely different games in mind.

But going back to the statement that we cant just be friends, there is actually the second phrase that
finishes it off (thank God!) “ unless one of these 4 things is at play”. Once one of these is
activated, then the male/female friendship can absolutely exist in perpetuity. And here goes:

1- You’re taken.
If either of you are taken, or previously has, over the duration of your friendship, thus preventing the
proper timing needed to act on your sparks, its a fair game.

2-You’ve already in some way, consummated that attraction.
Be it a drunken make out session or a full-blown hook up, sometimes thats all you need. Once the
thrill of the chase is over, and you’ve reached that (sometimes anti-climax) pinnacle, men and
woman can go back to being friends. But that doesnt promise no encore.

3-That huge obstacle that places either of you right flat into the “Off-limit” category.
He’s charming, and sensitive, but he’s also your ex’s bestfriend. She’s a total 9, and so is your bro’s
sister. That, or one of you is flat out not attracted to the other. Like you’d rather hook up with your
cousin than get with him/her, that would make it easy to hang out without getting into anything. Also,
sucks to be them, for what its worth.


4- You just havent hooked up yet, but it’s coming.
Oh-wells.

True friends are really hard to come by. And however you may see this post, please, always give a
thought or two about their feelings. Peel the layers, strip it all down to the very basic qualities of the
friendship, and you’ll know exactly what kind of nature that relationship is.

Be aware, act wisely.

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