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Mınh la ai?

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Tai sao khong nen qua lo lang ve ve be ngoai?

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Lam sao co the noi chuyen vUi cha me?

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Lam the nao e sVa chVa loi lam?

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Phai lam sao neu bi bat nat U trVUng?

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Lam sao khang cV ap lVc ban be?

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Lam sao VUng au vUi ap lVc quan he tınh duc?

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Mınh nen biet gı ve nan xam hai tınh duc?

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Mınh co nen tin thuyet tien hoa khong?

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Kinh Thanh co the giup mınh the nao?

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Ten cua mot so ban tre trong sach mong nay
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An pham nay khong dung e ban, nhVng VUc
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phat hanh nham ay manh cong viec day do
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Kinh Thanh tren khap the giUi. Cong viec nay
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VUc tai trU do sV ong gop tınh nguyen.
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Ðe ong gop, xin truy cap www.jw.org/vi.
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TrV khi VUc ghi ro, cac cau Kinh Thanh trong
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thong cua Lien hiep Thanh kinh hoi (Sang-the
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Ky en Ma-la-chi) va Kinh Thanh—Ban dich The
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GiUi MUi (Ma-thi-U en Khai huyen). NW la chV
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Answers to 10 Questions Young People Ask
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Watch Tower Bible and Tract
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Mınh la ai?

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trong than the mınh co mot luat
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khac tranh au vUi luat trong trı
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Niem tin cua ban la gı? Vı du: Ban co tin nUi ÐVc Chua TrUi khong?
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Khong co gı sai neu ban quan tam en ve ngoai cua mınh. That ra, Kinh
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XEM XET DIEN MAO CUA BAN
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Ban co thVUng that vong ve dien mao cua mınh khong?
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Ban co tVng nghı phai nhU vao phau thuat tham my hoac
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CHIEU CAO
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nha xong thı cuoi cung Geoff cung VUc nghı ngUi! Ban ay bat ti-vi
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Co the vı viec noi chuyen vUi cha me giong nhV lai xe. Neu gap
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chVUng ngai vat, ban co the tım VUng khac.

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VI DU:
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Mot ban nV ten Lien noi: “Mınh thay kho noi chuyen vUi ba. Ðoi khi mınh noi VUc mot hoi thı ba
´ ´
quay sang hoi: ‘Ua, con ang noi vUi ba ha?’ ”.

ˆ
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LI
´ EN CO
IT NHAT
BA L A CHON.

A

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Gat gong vUi cha.
ˆ
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Lien gat len: “Sao ba
ˆ
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khong nghe con? Ðay
`
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la chuyen quan trong
`
ma!”.

B

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´
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Khong noi chuyen
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vUi cha nVa.

ˆ
ˆ
Lien bo cuoc, chang
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muon noi cho cha biet
van e.

C

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ChU en luc
ˆ
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tien hUn mUi noi.

ˆ
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Lien noi vUi cha sau
˘
hoac viet thV cho cha
hieu van e.

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Ban e nghi lVa chon nao cho Lien?

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Lien con nhVng lVa chon nao khac?

˜
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ˆ
HAY XEM XET: Cha cua Lien ang nghı ve chuyen

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Ban hay thV suy nghı va ghi mot lVa chon ben
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dVUi. Hınh dung xem lVa chon ay co the dan
ˆ
en au roi viet ra.

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khac nen khong thay ban ay bVc. Vı vay, neu lam
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theo LVa chon A thı cha cung chang hieu tai sao
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Lien lai gat len nhV the. LVa chon nay chang
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nhVng khong khien cha ch
ˆ u yˆ enˆ lUi cua Lienˆ
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hUn ma o con la vo le (E-phe-so 6:2). The nen,
`
lVa chon nay chı dan en be tac.
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LVa chon B co ve de nhat nhVng khong phai
ˆ
khon ngoan nhat. Tai sao? Neu muon giai quyet
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van e cua mınh, Lien can noi chuyen vUi cha, va
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cha chı co the giup khi biet ang co chuyen gı
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xay ra vUi con gai. Cham dVt cuoc noi chuyen
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khong giup ıch VUc gı.
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Tuy nhien, khi lam theo LVa chon C, Lien khong
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ˆ

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dVng lai trVUc rao can. Thay vı vay, Lien co tım
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luc khac e noi chuyen. Va neu chon cach viet thV
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cho cha thı Lien cung co the cam thay nhe nhom
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hUn ngay luc o.
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Viet thV co the giup Lien trınh bay ro rang nhVng
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gı muon noi. Khi oc thV, cha se biet Lien muon

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noi gı va hieu van e cua ban ay hUn. Vı the, lVa
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chon C giup ıch cho ca hai cha con. Du noi trVc
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tiep hay viet thV thı lVa chon nay lam theo lUi
ˆ
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khuyen Kinh Thanh la “hay gang sVc hoa thuan”.
ˆ
—Ro-ma 14:19.

LVa chon:

Ket qua:

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Gap chVUng ngai vat khong co nghıa
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la het VUng. TVUng tV, ban co the tım
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hVUng khac e noi chuyen vUi cha me

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GI I TR E TH AC M AC


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L I KHUYEN
ˆ
KHON NGOAN
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T KINH THANH

ˆ
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“Hay hieu kınh cha me ngVUi”.—E-phe-so 6:2.
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“LUi noi anh em phai luon tV te”.—Co-lo-se 4:6.
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“Mau nghe, cham noi, cham nong gian”.
—Gia-cU 1:19.

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TRANH NOI NH NG L I GAY HIEU LAM
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Hay nhU rang co khi ban noi mot ang nhVng cha me lai hieu mot neo.

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VI DU:
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Cha me hoi tai sao trong ban co ve
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khong vui. Ban tra lUi: “Con khong
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muon noi”.
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NhVng cha me hieu nham y cua ban
`
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la: “Con khong tin tVUng ba me cho
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lam. Con tha tam sV vUi ban be con
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hUn phai noi vUi ba me”.

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˘
ˆ

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Hay tVUng tVUng ban ang gap mot van e va cha me
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muon giup. Neu ban noi: “Ba me Vng lo. Con tV xoay xU
VUc”.
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Cha me co the hieu nham y cua ban la:

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Cau tra lUi khac tot hUn:

`
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KE HOACH HANH ÐONG
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Lan tUi, neu cam thay khong muon noi chuyen vUi cha me, mınh se

`

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Neu cha me bat mınh noi ve chuyen mınh chVa muon nhac tUi, mınh se

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Lam the nao e
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sVa chVa loi lam?
TAI SAO QUAN TRONG?
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ThVa nhan loi lam se giup ban trU thanh
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ngVUi co trach nhiem va ang tin cay hUn.

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BAN SE LAM GI?

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Hay hınh dung tınh huong sau: Khi ang chUi vUi cac ban, Tim nem
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trai bong lam vU cVa so nha hang xom.

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Neu la Tim, ban se lam gı?

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NG` NG LAI ˜
VA SUY NGHI!

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GI I TR E TH AC M AC

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BAN CO BA L A CHON:

A

Bo chay.

B

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Ðo loi cho ngVUi khac.

C

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Noi cho ngVUi hang xom
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biet va xin boi thVUng
cho ho.

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Co le ban muon lam theo lVa
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chon A. NhVng co nhVng ly
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do chınh ang e ban thu
ˆ
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nhan loi lam, du sV viec lien
ˆ `
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quan en chuyen lam vU cVa
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so hay bat cV chuyen gı
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khac.


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BAˆ LY DOˆ
NEN NHAN LOI

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ı o la ieu ung.
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1 VKinh
Thanh noi: “Chung toi tin mınh co lVUng tam

2
3

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that tha va muon song lVUng thien trong moi viec”.
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—He-bU-rU 13:18.
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Vı ngVUi khac thVUng de tha thV hUn cho ngVUi
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nhan loi.
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Kinh Thanh noi: “NgVUi nao giau toi-loi mınh se khong
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VUc may-man; nhVng ai xVng no ra va lıa-bo no se VUc
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thVUng-xot”.—Cham-ngon 28:13.
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Quan trong nhat, vı ieu o lam ÐVc Chua TrUi
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ep long.
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Kinh Thanh noi: “ÐVc Gie-ho-va gUm-ghiec ke gian-ta;
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nhVng ket tınh bau-ban cung ngVUi ngay-thang”.
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—Cham-ngon 3:32.

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Karina, 20 tuoi, co tım cach giau cha me chuyen bi phat vı
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chay xe qua toc o. NhVng ‘kim trong boc lau ngay cung loi
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ra’. Karina ke: “Khoang mot nam sau, ba phat hien ra giay
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phat cua mınh. Mınh gap rac roi to!”.
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Bai hoc la gı? Karina noi: “Giau toi chı khien cho van e tram
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trong them. Khong sUm thı muon ban van phai tra gia”.

´
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CACH
R
UT
RA
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BAI HOC T
LOI LAM

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Kinh Thanh noi: “Het thay chung ta eu vap nga nhieu lan”
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(Gia-cU 3:2). NhV a xem xet, mau chong nhan loi la dau
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hieu cua tınh khiem nhVUng va sV chın chan.
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BVUc tiep theo la rut ra bai hoc tV loi lam. Mot ban nV ten
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Vera noi: “Mınh co gang xem moi loi lam la mot bai hoc e
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hoan thien ban than va biet cach xV ly tınh huong tot hUn
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trong lan tUi”. Hay xem cach ban co the lam the.

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Ban mVUn xe cua ba va
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lam hong. Sau o ban se
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lam gı?

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* Nın thinh va hy vong ba se khong biet.
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* Noi het cho ba biet chuyen gı a xay ra.
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* Noi cho ba biet nhVng o loi cho ngVUi khac.

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Ban thi rUt vı khong hoc
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bai. Sau o ban se lam gı?

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* Ðo thVa cho bai thi.
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* Nhan trach nhiem.

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* Ðo thVa do giao vien khong thıch mınh.

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Bay giU, hay nhın lai nhVng tınh huong tren va thV hınh
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dung ban la (1) cha va (2) giao vien. Cha va giao vien cua
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ban se nghı gı ve ban neu ban san sang nhan loi? Ho se
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nghı gı ve ban neu ban che giau loi lam?
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˘
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Hay nghı ve mot loi ban a mac phai trong nam qua va
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tra lUi nhVng cau hoi sau.

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Loi o la gı?
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Mınh a lam gı
sau khi pham
loi?

* Che giau.

˜
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Neu a khong
ˆ
nhan loi, ban
cam thay the
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´
nao sau o?

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* Vui—Mınh a thoat nan!
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* Mac cam toi loi—Ðang le mınh phai
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noi ra sV that.

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* Ðo loi cho ngVUi khac.
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* San sang nhan loi.

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Ban a co the xV ly tınh huong tot hUn nhV the nao?
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Ban a rut ra bai hoc gı tV loi lam cua mınh?

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BAN NGHI SAO?
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Tai sao mot so ngVUi chan chV nhan loi?
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Moi ngVUi se nghı sao ve ban neu ban luon co che giau loi lam?
˜
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NhVng ho se nghı sao ve ban neu ban nhan loi?—Lu-ca 16:10.

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KE HOACH HANH ÐONG

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Trong 12 thang tUi, ban quyet tam lam gı neu pham loi?

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GI I TR E TH AC M AC

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CV nhU en nhVng loi lam trong
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qua khV giong nhV nhın cham
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cham vao gVUng chieu hau
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khi lai xe


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Phai lam sao
neu bi bat nat
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U trVUng?
TAI SAO QUAN TRONG?
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Cach ban phan Vng co the khien tınh hınh
˘
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tot hUn hoac te i.

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BAN SE LAM GI?

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Hay hınh dung tınh huong sau: Hom nay Thomas khong muon i
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ˆ

ˆ
ˆ
hoc. Ngay mai cung vay. That ra Thomas muon nghı hoc luon. Moi
ˆ
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chuyen bat au cach ay ba thang khi cac ban cung lUp loan tin
´ ´
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on ac y ve Thomas. Tiep en la cac biet danh. Thınh thoang mot
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Va ban co tınh hat quyen vU tren tay Thomas, hoac xo Thomas tV
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ˆ

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ang sau va gia vU nhV khong biet gı. Tınh hınh cang toi te hUn nVa
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ˆ
khi hom qua Thomas vVa nhan mot lUi e doa tren mang.

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Neu la Thomas, ban se phan Vng the nao?

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NG` NG LAI ˜
VA SUY NGHI!

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Hoan canh cua ban chVa han a be tac. That ra, ban co the oi pho
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vUi ke bat nat ma khong dung nam am. NhV the nao?

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˘ Ð NG PHAN NG. Kinh Thanh noi: “Ke ngu-muoi to ra sV nong-gian mınh; nhVng
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ˆ
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ngVUi khon-ngoan... cam-giV no lai [“giV bınh tınh”, Ban Pho thong]” (Cham-ngon
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29:11). Neu ban giV VUc bınh tınh, du chı la be ngoai, thı co the nhVng ke bat nat
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se cut hVng va bo cuoc.
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˘ Ð NG TRA ÐUA. Kinh Thanh noi: “ÐVng lay ac tra ac cho ai” (Ro-ma 12:17).
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Tım cach tra ua chı khien tınh hınh te i.
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˘ TRANH ÐI. Kinh Thanh noi: “NgVUi khon-ngoan thay ieu tai-va, va an mınh”
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(Cham-ngon 22:3). Neu VUc, hay tranh nhVng ngVUi co the gay sV hoac nhVng
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hoan canh khien mınh de bi bat nat.
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˘ DUNG L I ÐAP BAT NG . Kinh Thanh noi: “LUi ap em-nhe lam nguoi cUn-gian”
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´

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(Cham-ngon 15:1). Ban co the to ra khoi hai. Chang han, neu ke bat nat che ban
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map, ban co the mım cVUi va ap: “Map map mum mım thı de thVUng”.
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˘ R I KHOI ÐO. Mot ban 19 tuoi ten Nora noi: “SV im lang cho thay ban chın chan
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`
va manh hUn ke bat nat. No cho thay ban co tınh tV chu, ieu ma ke bat nat
ˆ
´
ˆ
ˆ
khong co”.—2 Ti-mo-the 2:24.

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˘ T TIN. Ke bat nat thVUng co the nhan ra ban nao tV ti va khong the khang cV.
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NgVUc lai, nhieu ke bat nat se rut lui neu thay khong the lam gı VUc ban.
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˘ NOI CHO NG I KHAC. Mot cVu giao vien cho biet: “Toi khuyen khıch cac em
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´
´

´
ang bi bat nat hay len tieng. Ðo la ieu ung phai lam va co the giup cac ban khac
ˆ
khong bi bat nat”.

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BAN CO BIET?
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Bat nat khong chı la hanh hung. No con bao gom:
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Tan cong bang lUi noi. “Mınh khong quen VUc cac biet danh ho gan cho
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`

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mınh hoac nhVng lUi ma ho noi. Ho lam mınh cam thay thVa thai va vo
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tıch sV. Tha bi anh bam mat con hUn bi oi xV nhV vay”.—Celine,
20 tuoi.
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Co lap. “Ban cung trVUng bat au tranh ne mınh. Ho lam nhV het cho
ˆ
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tren ban an e mınh Vng ngoi an trVa vUi ho. Suot ca nam, mınh chı an
ˆ
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´

ˆ
mot mınh va khoc tui than”.—Haley, 18 tuoi.
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Bat nat qua mang. “Chı can go vai chV tren may vi tınh la ban co the
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huy hoai danh tieng hoac tham chı cuoc Ui cua mot ngVUi. Nghe co ve
´
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´
ˆ
phong ai, nhVng o la chuyen co that”.—Daniel, 14 tuoi.

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TRAC NGHIEM VE S

BAT NAT

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ÐUNG HAY SAI

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ÐAP AN

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1 Nan bat nat a co tV hang ngan
˘
nam nay.

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1 Ðung. Chang han, Kinh Thanh noi ve ngVUi Ne-phi-lim, ten cua
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ho co nghıa la “ke lam cho ngVUi khac nga”.—Sang-the Ky 6:4.

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2 Bat nat chı la tro choc gheo
ˆ
ˆ
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vo hai, khong nghiem trong.

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2 Sai. Nan bat nat la mot trong nhVng nguyen nhan chınh dan
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en cac vu tV tV trong giUi tre.

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3 Cach tot nhat e khoi bi bat nat
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la anh lai.

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3 Sai. NgVUi bi bat nat thVUng yeu sVc hUn ke bat nat, nen moi
ˆ ´
no lVc chong tra eu vo ıch.

4 Neu thay canh bat nat, tot nhat
ˆ `
nen lam ngU.

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4 Sai. Ðieu o khong lam ban thoat toi. Neu thay ma khong len
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tieng thı ban co the trU thanh ke tiep tay thay vı tiep cVu.

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5 NhVng ke bat nat ra ve ta ay,
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nhVng thVUng trong long thı tV ti.

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5 Ðung. Du mot so ke bat nat rat huenh hoang va tV tin, nhVng
ˆ
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nhieu ke cung tV ti va co ha thap ban khac e nang mınh len.

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6 NhVng ke bat nat co the thay oi.

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6 Ðung. Neu VUc giup U, nhVng ke bat nat co the thay oi loi
˜ ` `
suy nghı va hanh vi.

`
ˆ
KE HOACH HANH ÐONG
˘
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˜ `
˘
´
Neu oi mat vUi ke bat nat, mınh se lam hoac noi nhV sau:

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KHAM PHA THEM!
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Xem hoat hınh tren bang trang
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Ðanh bai ke bat nat ma khong
`
dung nam am tai www.jw.org/vi.
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(Vao muc KINH THANH GIUP BAN 
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THANH THIEU NIEN)

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SV tV tin se cho ban sVc manh
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ma ke bat nat khong co


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Lam sao khang cV
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ap lVc ban be?
TAI SAO QUAN TRONG?
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ÐVa thV hai ngat lUi: “Sao nhat nhV tho e vay!”.
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ÐVa thV nhat Va ieu thuoc trVUc mat Brian va noi khe:
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Neu la Brian, ban se phan Vng the nao?

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NG` NG LAI ˜
VA SUY NGHI!

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May Va ban cua Brian co that sV nghı ve ieu ang lam
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khong? Ho co tV Va ra quyet inh khong? Khong han. Nhın
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SUY NGHI
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Kinh Thanh noi: “Hay gın giV mot lVUng tam tot”.—1 Phi-e-rU 3:16.
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ban cung lUp khong?—Xuat E-dıp-to Ky 23:2.

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Kinh Thanh noi: ‘Hay song trung tın’ (Thi-thien 37:3, NW). Neu ban a suy
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KE HOACH HANH ÐONG
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Xem hoat hınh tren bang trang
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tai www.jw.org/vi. (Vao muc
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KINH THANH GIUP BAN 
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THANH THIEU NIEN)

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TAI SAO QUAN TRONG?
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Quyet inh cua ban ve “chuyen ay” se
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tin cho nhau khong dVt, “nau chao” ien thoai hang giU lien va vo
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cung tam au y hUp! NhVng giU ay Mike muon tien xa hUn nVa.

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phUt nhe. Heather khong muon moi chuyen i qua xa, nhVng co
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cung khong muon mat Mike. TrVUc giU chı co anh mUi lam co cam
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NG` NG LAI ˜
VA SUY NGHI!

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Neu chong lai mot luat trong thien nhien, nhV luat ve trong lVc, ban se
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lanh hau qua. Ðieu tVUng tV cung xay ra khi ban vi pham luat ve ao
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khoi sV gian dam” (1 Te-sa-lo-ni-ca 4:3). Roi mot

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chan goi giVa vU chong. Ban se tan hVUng tron
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trVUc hon nhan.—Cham-ngon 7:22, 23;
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BAN N

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Ban co kinh ngac, tham chı tVc gian khi nghe the khong? Vay hay
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dang” that ra chı la nhVng ke ıch ky.—1 Co-rinh-to 13:4, 5.


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Ban Dich MUi). That the, co ay se yeu ban nhieu hUn nVa!

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BAN NGHI SAO?
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mieng lVUi ngon ngot
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anh”, hay kien quyet
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Tınh huong nao khien ban thay kho tV choi hUn?

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khac phai, hay tV hoi:
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ay thı mınh co dam
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lam ieu nay khong?”.

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Lam the nao ban co the tranh nhVng tınh huong ay?

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Mınh nen biet gı
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TAI SAO QUAN TRONG?
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Moi nam, hang trieu ngVUi bi cVUng hiep
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hoac lam dung tınh duc, va cac ban tre
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thVUng la oi tVUng ma thu pham nham en.

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hoan toan rung rUi”.

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NG` NG LAI ˜
VA SUY NGHI!

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thUi-the va cU-hoi [“chuyen bat trac”, NW] xay en cho moi ngVUi”.
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au, mınh sU hai va xau ho en mVc khong dam he nVa lUi vUi ai”.


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THO LO ˆ
MOI CHUYEN

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Noi au bi xam hai dVUng
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nhV qua sVc oi vUi ban.
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Hay chia se vUi ngVUi khac
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khang quyet liet hUn. SV that la sau khi bi am, mınh a te liet vı sU
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mınh thay mınh phai chiu trach nhiem vı a khien ho kho sU. Ðo la cam

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giac ma mınh thay kho VUng au nhat”.
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Neu ban co cam giac nhV Annette va Natalie, hay luon nhU rang ngVUi
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bi cVUng hiep khong he tV nguyen. Mot so ngVUi suy nghı qua Un
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khoi”. NhVng khong ai ang bi cVUng hiep. Neu la nan nhan cua toi ac
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Dı nhien, chı oc cau: “Ban khong co loi gı ca” thı de, nhVng e tin
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VUc thı co le kho hUn nhieu. Mot so ngVUi a chon chat noi au trong
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long va bi mac cam toi loi cung nhV nhVng cam xuc tieu cVc khac hanh
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ha. NhVng khi ban im lang thı ai la ngVUi co lUi nhat, ban hay ke xau xa
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o? Neu lam theo chı dan dVUi ay, chınh ban se VUc ıch.

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toi” (Giop 10:1). Lam the cung se giup ıch cho ban. Neu tho lo vUi mot
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ngVUi ang tin cay thı noi am anh kinh hoang o se dan lang xuong va
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Annette a cam nhan ieu o. Ban ay ke: “Sau khi nghe mınh tam sV
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thı co ban than a giuc mınh noi chuyen vUi mot vai anh trVUng lao
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va noi nhVng lUi that sV an ui, rang chuyen xay ra khong phai do loi
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cua mınh. Hoan toan khong phai”.
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ma mınh khong qua au buon hay tVc gian nVa”.
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Natalie cung cam thay VUc an ui qua viec cau nguyen. Ban ay cho
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biet: “Noi chuyen vUi ÐVc Chua TrUi a giup mınh rat nhieu, nhat la vao
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nhVng luc mınh khong the mU long vUi ai khac. Khi cau nguyen, mınh
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thoai mai doc o noi long cho ngai. Ðieu o khien tam hon mınh that
thanh than”.
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Ban cung se cam nghiem VUc la “co ky chVa lanh” (Truyen- ao 3:3).
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Hay cham soc sVc khoe tinh than va the chat cua ban than. Nghı ngUi
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ay u. Tren het, hay nVUng tVa nUi ÐVc Chua TrUi cua moi sV yen ui,
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ÐVc Gie-ho-va.—2 Co-rinh-to 1:3, 4.

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