Choices in relationships an introduction to marriage and the family 10th edition knox test bank

CHAPTER 2--LOVE
Student: ___________________________________________________________________________

1.

Schoebi (2008) studied hard (anger) and soft (depression) emotions and found that when one partner
displayed hard emotions, the other partner:
A. mirrored those emotions
B. displayed the opposite emotions
C. tried to console (soften) the partner
D. became nonresponsive

2.

According to Demir (2008) involvement in a romantic relationship:
A. is associated with increasing one's happiness only if the person is an introvert
B. is associated with increasing one's happiness only if the person is an extrovert
C. is associated with increasing one's happiness independent of one's personality
D. is associated with increasing one's happiness only if the person is bipolar

3.

Love style where the person keeps you at a distance and dates others simultaneously is:
A. ludus
B. eros
C. mania
D. agape

4.

The love a parent has for a child is:

A. ludus
B. eros
C. mania
D. agape

5.

Which type of lover assesses his or her partner on the basis of assets and liabilities?
A. pragma
B. mania
C. ledger
D. storge

6.

What is the most common style of love of women and men college students?
A. ludus
B. eros
C. mania
D. agape

7.

What is the least common style of love of undergraduate college students?
A. ludus
B. eros
C. mania
D. agape

1

8.

Another word for "conjugal" love is ____ love.
A. pragma
B. ludus
C. married
D. eros

9.

The lover representing this love style does not become involved in interracial, long-distance, or
age-discrepant relationships.
A. pragma
B. ludus
C. mania
D. storge

10. What style of love might your grandparents have for each other?
A. storge
B. ludus
C. agape
D. pragma
11. What style of love might Chinese couples have for each other?
A. storge
B. ludus
C. agape
D. pragma
12. In terms of falling in love at first sight and willingness to marry soon after meeting,:

A. women are more likely
B. men are more likely
C. there is no gender difference
D. no research is available on this issue
13. When couples who fell in love at first sight are compared with those who did not:
A. couples who fell in love at first sight have higher marital quality
B. couples who reported that love grew over time had higher marital quality
C. there is no difference in marital quality
D. no research is available on this issue
14. In regard to love being able to solve any problem a couple may confront:
A. men are more likely than women to believe this
B. women are more likely than men to believe this
C. there is no gender difference, both men and women don't believe this
D. there is no gender difference, both men and women believe this
15. According to your text, infatuation is characterized by the tendency to:
A. magnify one's lover's positive qualities
B. overlook or minimize one's lover's negative qualities
C. compare one's current love with a previous love
D. both a and b

2


16. The term "infatuation" comes from the same root word as "fatuous," meaning:
A. brief or short-lived
B. insignificant or meaningless
C. silly or foolish
D. overflowing or abundant
17. When men say "I love you," they use the phrase (more often than women):
A. as a ploy to get the partner to become more emotionally involved

B. as a ploy to get the partner to have sex
C. as a ploy to get the partner to commit
D. none of the above
18. What percent of the marriages in China, India, and Indonesia (three countries representing 40 percent of
the world's population) are arranged by parents?
A. 10 percent
B. 20 percent
C. 40 percent
D. 80 percent
19. What is the significance of the fact that 95 percent of U.S. adults marry within their race?
A. our freedom to marry anyone we wish is paramount
B. less than five percent of our population can be regarded as individualistic thinkers
C. cultural and social forces influence have no real effect on our mate choices
D. due to social influences, it is an illusion that we are free to marry anyone we want
20. Diamond (2003) found that in regard to love:
A. individuals are biologically wired to fall in love with persons of the same sex
B. individuals are biologically wired to fall in love with persons of the other sex
C. individuals are biologically wired to fall in love with either sex
D. the direction of one's sexual and emotional desires is the same
21. Maria and Max have just begun to see each other regularly¾who will fall in love first?
A. Maria
B. Max
C. both at the same time
D. they will probably not fall in love
22. Ancient Buddhists conceived of two types of love:
A. self-love and creative spiritual attainment
B. love of people and love of Buddha
C. irrational love and rational love
D. peaceful love and disturbing love
23. The word "philanthropia" means:

A. love of the human body
B. love of women
C. love of God
D. love of humankind

3


24. According to Plato, what is the highest form of love?
A. mother-child love
B. love of God
C. homosexual love
D. husband-wife love
25. Which of the following is not used to describe love as experienced by the Chinese?
A. respect
B. mutual understanding
C. romance
D. support
26. In medieval Europe, romantic love had its origin in:
A. extramarital love
B. was not expected between spouses
C. both a and b
D. neither a nor b
27. In colonial America the dowry:
A. was money paid by the father of the daughter to her husband to get him to marry her
B. was money paid by the groom to the father so he would let him marry the daughter
C. existed since being an unmarried woman was stigmatized
D. both a and c
28. The "four year itch" identified by Fisher is:
A. the 4th year of marriage, when husbands first cheat

B. the time when both spouses consider experimenting with others
C. the time when wives evaluate/decide if they want to have a second child
D. the term for when parents of one child are most likely to divorce
29. This theory of love emphasizes the emotional bonding of two adults to care for infants.
A. ontological
B. psychosexual
C. ego-ideal
D. evolutionary
30. Using evolutionary theory of love, when is a couple with one child likely to divorce?
A. first year
B. fourth year
C. just before puberty of the child
D. at the time a pregnancy is confirmed with a second child
31. This term refers to being annoyed and disgusted by a repeated behavior of one's partner.
A. satiation
B. negative reinforcement
C. oxytocin
D. social allergy

4


32. According to Freud's psychosexual theory, love results from:
A. blocked biological sexual desires
B. projecting one's love for oneself onto another person
C. projecting one's love for one's parents onto another person
D. removal of repressed negative memories to allow for the blossoming of love
33. The hormone oxytocin has been referred to as the:
A. "jealousy chemical" because of its association with jealous feelings
B. "cuddle chemical" because of its significance in bonding

C. "gay chemical" because of its high level in the bloodstream of gay women and men
D. "divorce chemical" because of its association with not being committed
34. Phenylethylamine (PEA) is a(n) ____ substance produced in the brain that is associated with people's
reporting that they are experiencing love feelings.
A. amphetamine-like
B. hallucinogen-like
C. analgesic-like
D. barbiturate-like
35. Ira Reiss's wheel theory of love has all of the following elements except:
A. personality need fulfillment
B. mutual dependency
C. libido attraction
D. self-revelation
36. In regard to using their "heart" or "head" in making relationship choices:
A. most college students reported using their heart
B. most college students reported using their head
C. most college students reported that they alternated¾it was about half and half
D. most college students reported that they "didn't know"¾they had never thought of it
37. Sternberg's concept of liking is which of the following?
A. intimacy and commitment without passion
B. passion and commitment without intimacy
C. intimacy without passion or commitment
D. passion without possessiveness
38. Halpern et al. (2005) studied adolescent females and found that for each one point increase in body mass
index (BMI), the probability of involvement in a romantic relationship ____ by 6%.
A. increased
B. decreased
C. decreased then increased
D. increased then decreased
39. High self esteem is associated with all of the following except:

A. it allows one to feel generally equal to others
B. it allows one to take responsibility for success and failure
C. it allows one to accept the strength and weaknesses of others
D. it allows one to be successful in the economic arena

5


40. This psychological factor is associated with the development of love?
A. creativity
B. high I.Q.
C. self-disclosure
D. neuroticism
41. How might watching a scary movie with a partner affect the relationship?
A. love feelings might increase
B. love feelings might decrease
C. love feelings would not be affected by being in a haunted house
D. libido feelings would increase
42. Ross (2006) found the effect of telling your partner of your tastes/interests was:
A. relationship satisfaction might increase
B. relationship satisfaction might decrease
C. no effect
D. depends on sexual orientation of the partners
43. Individuals who have had the front part of their brain removed due to brain cancer:
A. are incapable of feeling love
B. develop a strong attraction and bond to the first individual they see after surgery
C. are only able to recognize individuals whom they love
D. have bouts of violent behavior (which can be controlled with medication)
44. Kate delights in male partner having emotional/sexual relationships with other women. The term to
describe this phenomenon is:

A. alter ego disorder
B. mania disorder
C. necronomia
D. compersion
45. When a woman is experiencing jealousy, she is most likely to:
A. eat
B. exercise vigorously
C. drink
D. take drugs to cope with her depression
46. The primary reason for stalking is:
A. rejection by an intimate or a stranger
B. erotic satisfaction in the pursuit of a denied object
C. psycopathological schizoid disorder
D. lust thwarted syndrome
47. The most common stalking behavior is:
A. obsessional following
B. use of the phone¾calling, leaving messages
C. email (including sending electronic cards)
D. letters (including photos the person has taken of you without your awareness)

6


48. The best way to discourage a stalker is to:
A. make direct statements backed up by behavior of disinterest to the stalker
B. don't confront the stalker directly but have someone else (e.g. parents) do so
C. involve the police immediately so as to severely punish the behavior
D. ignore the stalker
49. Which of the following is an example of anxious jealousy?
A. the murder of ex-wife by O. J. Simpson

B. obsessive ruminations about the partner's alleged infidelity
C. feeling hurt and confronting the partner when abandoned at a party
D. being upset when a partner is VERY late
50. Which of the following is most likely to include jealousy?
A. new relationships of less than one-year duration
B. a couple who live together
C. a married couple
D. relationships where one partner is thinking termination
51. Levy (2007) predicts that by 2050 individuals will have romantic relationships with robots.
True

False

52. Jealousy is more likely to occur in new (less than a year) relationships than older (more than a year)
relationships.
True

False

53. The more individuals are in love/committed, the less likely they are to use a condom.
True

False

54. An eros love style is less frequent than ludus among college students.
True

False

55. Being romantically in love with one partner helps to deflect the development of a new love.

True

False

56. The lower the self esteem, the higher the jealousy.
True

False

57. Most companies have policies restricting romantic relationships between employees.
True

False

58. Schoebi (2008) identified hard (angry) and soft (depression) emotions and found that spouses
counteracted each other's emotions¾when one was angry, the other tended to be soft.
True

False

59. Men who become jealous are more likely to turn to alcohol than to friends.
True

False

7


60. Romantic love increases one's personal happiness, independent of the person's personality. Even if you
tend to be a happy person, love will make you happier

True

False

61. Specify how parents in China, India, and Indonesia control who their children fall in love with and who
they marry.

62. For all the joy love brings, it can become a context for having a lot of problems. How?

63. Specify the pros and cons of workplace romances.

8


64. Discuss the potential negative and positive consequences of jealousy for individuals and their
relationships.

65. Compare and contrast the beliefs about love of the romantic and the realist by gender.

66. Discuss how love is NOT BLIND...but very targeted.

67. Compare how women and men cope with feeling jealous.

9


68. What is the origin of stalking, who stalks the most and how?

69. Explain the various forms of polyamory.

70. Discuss the various social, psychological, physiological, body type and cognitive conditions under which
love develops.

71. Examine how love in the workplace can work to the advantage and disadvantage of workers and
employers.

10


72. Discuss the degree to which college students make relationship decisions with their heart versus their
head.

73. Discuss how African-Americans and whites view love differently.

74. Discuss how love between spouses in Medieval Europe was conceptualized and why? When did this
change and why?

75. Discuss why the fourth year of marriage is associated with an increase in divorce rates.

11


CHAPTER 2--LOVE Key
1.

Schoebi (2008) studied hard (anger) and soft (depression) emotions and found that when one partner
displayed hard emotions, the other partner:
A.
B.
C.

D.

2.

According to Demir (2008) involvement in a romantic relationship:
A.
B.
C.
D.

3.

pragma
mania
ledger
storge

What is the most common style of love of women and men college students?
A.
B.
C.
D.

7.

ludus
eros
mania
agape

Which type of lover assesses his or her partner on the basis of assets and liabilities?
A.
B.
C.
D.

6.

ludus
eros
mania
agape

The love a parent has for a child is:
A.
B.
C.
D.

5.

is associated with increasing one's happiness only if the person is an introvert
is associated with increasing one's happiness only if the person is an extrovert
is associated with increasing one's happiness independent of one's personality
is associated with increasing one's happiness only if the person is bipolar

Love style where the person keeps you at a distance and dates others simultaneously is:
A.
B.
C.

D.

4.

mirrored those emotions
displayed the opposite emotions
tried to console (soften) the partner
became nonresponsive

ludus
eros
mania
agape

What is the least common style of love of undergraduate college students?
A.
B.
C.
D.

ludus
eros
mania
agape

1


8.

Another word for "conjugal" love is ____ love.
A.
B.
C.
D.

9.

The lover representing this love style does not become involved in interracial, long-distance, or
age-discrepant relationships.
A.
B.
C.
D.

10.

couples who fell in love at first sight have higher marital quality
couples who reported that love grew over time had higher marital quality
there is no difference in marital quality
no research is available on this issue

In regard to love being able to solve any problem a couple may confront:
A.
B.
C.
D.

15.

women are more likely
men are more likely
there is no gender difference
no research is available on this issue

When couples who fell in love at first sight are compared with those who did not:
A.
B.
C.
D.

14.

storge
ludus
agape
pragma

In terms of falling in love at first sight and willingness to marry soon after meeting,:
A.
B.
C.
D.

13.

storge
ludus
agape
pragma

What style of love might Chinese couples have for each other?
A.
B.
C.
D.

12.

pragma
ludus
mania
storge

What style of love might your grandparents have for each other?
A.
B.
C.
D.

11.

pragma
ludus
married
eros

men are more likely than women to believe this
women are more likely than men to believe this
there is no gender difference, both men and women don't believe this

there is no gender difference, both men and women believe this

According to your text, infatuation is characterized by the tendency to:
A.
B.
C.
D.

magnify one's lover's positive qualities
overlook or minimize one's lover's negative qualities
compare one's current love with a previous love
both a and b

2


16.

The term "infatuation" comes from the same root word as "fatuous," meaning:
A.
B.
C.
D.

17.

When men say "I love you," they use the phrase (more often than women):
A.
B.
C.

D.

18.

Maria
Max
both at the same time
they will probably not fall in love

Ancient Buddhists conceived of two types of love:
A.
B.
C.
D.

23.

individuals are biologically wired to fall in love with persons of the same sex
individuals are biologically wired to fall in love with persons of the other sex
individuals are biologically wired to fall in love with either sex
the direction of one's sexual and emotional desires is the same

Maria and Max have just begun to see each other regularly¾who will fall in love first?
A.
B.
C.
D.

22.

our freedom to marry anyone we wish is paramount
less than five percent of our population can be regarded as individualistic thinkers
cultural and social forces influence have no real effect on our mate choices
due to social influences, it is an illusion that we are free to marry anyone we want

Diamond (2003) found that in regard to love:
A.
B.
C.
D.

21.

10 percent
20 percent
40 percent
80 percent

What is the significance of the fact that 95 percent of U.S. adults marry within their race?
A.
B.
C.
D.

20.

as a ploy to get the partner to become more emotionally involved
as a ploy to get the partner to have sex
as a ploy to get the partner to commit
none of the above

What percent of the marriages in China, India, and Indonesia (three countries representing 40 percent
of the world's population) are arranged by parents?
A.
B.
C.
D.

19.

brief or short-lived
insignificant or meaningless
silly or foolish
overflowing or abundant

self-love and creative spiritual attainment
love of people and love of Buddha
irrational love and rational love
peaceful love and disturbing love

The word "philanthropia" means:
A.
B.
C.
D.

love of the human body
love of women
love of God
love of humankind

3


24.

According to Plato, what is the highest form of love?
A.
B.
C.
D.

25.

Which of the following is not used to describe love as experienced by the Chinese?
A.
B.
C.
D.

26.

ontological
psychosexual
ego-ideal
evolutionary

Using evolutionary theory of love, when is a couple with one child likely to divorce?
A.
B.

C.
D.

31.

the 4th year of marriage, when husbands first cheat
the time when both spouses consider experimenting with others
the time when wives evaluate/decide if they want to have a second child
the term for when parents of one child are most likely to divorce

This theory of love emphasizes the emotional bonding of two adults to care for infants.
A.
B.
C.
D.

30.

was money paid by the father of the daughter to her husband to get him to marry her
was money paid by the groom to the father so he would let him marry the daughter
existed since being an unmarried woman was stigmatized
both a and c

The "four year itch" identified by Fisher is:
A.
B.
C.
D.

29.

extramarital love
was not expected between spouses
both a and b
neither a nor b

In colonial America the dowry:
A.
B.
C.
D.

28.

respect
mutual understanding
romance
support

In medieval Europe, romantic love had its origin in:
A.
B.
C.
D.

27.

mother-child love
love of God
homosexual love

husband-wife love

first year
fourth year
just before puberty of the child
at the time a pregnancy is confirmed with a second child

This term refers to being annoyed and disgusted by a repeated behavior of one's partner.
A.
B.
C.
D.

satiation
negative reinforcement
oxytocin
social allergy

4


32.

According to Freud's psychosexual theory, love results from:
A.
B.
C.
D.

33.

The hormone oxytocin has been referred to as the:
A.
B.
C.
D.

34.

intimacy and commitment without passion
passion and commitment without intimacy
intimacy without passion or commitment
passion without possessiveness

Halpern et al. (2005) studied adolescent females and found that for each one point increase in body
mass index (BMI), the probability of involvement in a romantic relationship ____ by 6%.
A.
B.
C.
D.

39.

most college students reported using their heart
most college students reported using their head
most college students reported that they alternated¾it was about half and half
most college students reported that they "didn't know"¾they had never thought of it

Sternberg's concept of liking is which of the following?
A.

B.
C.
D.

38.

personality need fulfillment
mutual dependency
libido attraction
self-revelation

In regard to using their "heart" or "head" in making relationship choices:
A.
B.
C.
D.

37.

amphetamine-like
hallucinogen-like
analgesic-like
barbiturate-like

Ira Reiss's wheel theory of love has all of the following elements except:
A.
B.
C.
D.

36.

"jealousy chemical" because of its association with jealous feelings
"cuddle chemical" because of its significance in bonding
"gay chemical" because of its high level in the bloodstream of gay women and men
"divorce chemical" because of its association with not being committed

Phenylethylamine (PEA) is a(n) ____ substance produced in the brain that is associated with people's
reporting that they are experiencing love feelings.
A.
B.
C.
D.

35.

blocked biological sexual desires
projecting one's love for oneself onto another person
projecting one's love for one's parents onto another person
removal of repressed negative memories to allow for the blossoming of love

increased
decreased
decreased then increased
increased then decreased

High self esteem is associated with all of the following except:
A.
B.
C.

D.

it allows one to feel generally equal to others
it allows one to take responsibility for success and failure
it allows one to accept the strength and weaknesses of others
it allows one to be successful in the economic arena

5


40.

This psychological factor is associated with the development of love?
A.
B.
C.
D.

41.

How might watching a scary movie with a partner affect the relationship?
A.
B.
C.
D.

42.

eat
exercise vigorously

drink
take drugs to cope with her depression

The primary reason for stalking is:
A.
B.
C.
D.

47.

alter ego disorder
mania disorder
necronomia
compersion

When a woman is experiencing jealousy, she is most likely to:
A.
B.
C.
D.

46.

are incapable of feeling love
develop a strong attraction and bond to the first individual they see after surgery
are only able to recognize individuals whom they love
have bouts of violent behavior (which can be controlled with medication)

Kate delights in male partner having emotional/sexual relationships with other women. The term to

describe this phenomenon is:
A.
B.
C.
D.

45.

relationship satisfaction might increase
relationship satisfaction might decrease
no effect
depends on sexual orientation of the partners

Individuals who have had the front part of their brain removed due to brain cancer:
A.
B.
C.
D.

44.

love feelings might increase
love feelings might decrease
love feelings would not be affected by being in a haunted house
libido feelings would increase

Ross (2006) found the effect of telling your partner of your tastes/interests was:
A.
B.
C.

D.

43.

creativity
high I.Q.
self-disclosure
neuroticism

rejection by an intimate or a stranger
erotic satisfaction in the pursuit of a denied object
psycopathological schizoid disorder
lust thwarted syndrome

The most common stalking behavior is:
A.
B.
C.
D.

obsessional following
use of the phone¾calling, leaving messages
email (including sending electronic cards)
letters (including photos the person has taken of you without your awareness)

6


48.

The best way to discourage a stalker is to:
A.
B.
C.
D.

49.

Which of the following is an example of anxious jealousy?
A.
B.
C.
D.

50.

the murder of ex-wife by O. J. Simpson
obsessive ruminations about the partner's alleged infidelity
feeling hurt and confronting the partner when abandoned at a party
being upset when a partner is VERY late

Which of the following is most likely to include jealousy?
A.
B.
C.
D.

51.

make direct statements backed up by behavior of disinterest to the stalker

don't confront the stalker directly but have someone else (e.g. parents) do so
involve the police immediately so as to severely punish the behavior
ignore the stalker

new relationships of less than one-year duration
a couple who live together
a married couple
relationships where one partner is thinking termination

Levy (2007) predicts that by 2050 individuals will have romantic relationships with robots.
TRUE

52.

Jealousy is more likely to occur in new (less than a year) relationships than older (more than a year)
relationships.
TRUE

53.

The more individuals are in love/committed, the less likely they are to use a condom.
TRUE

54.

An eros love style is less frequent than ludus among college students.
FALSE

55.

Being romantically in love with one partner helps to deflect the development of a new love.
TRUE

56.

The lower the self esteem, the higher the jealousy.
TRUE

57.

Most companies have policies restricting romantic relationships between employees.
FALSE

58.

Schoebi (2008) identified hard (angry) and soft (depression) emotions and found that spouses
counteracted each other's emotions¾when one was angry, the other tended to be soft.
FALSE

59.

Men who become jealous are more likely to turn to alcohol than to friends.
TRUE

7


60.

Romantic love increases one's personal happiness, independent of the person's personality. Even if

you tend to be a happy person, love will make you happier
TRUE

61.

Specify how parents in China, India, and Indonesia control who their children fall in love with and
who they marry.
Answer not provided.

62.

For all the joy love brings, it can become a context for having a lot of problems. How?
Answer not provided.

63.

Specify the pros and cons of workplace romances.
Answer not provided.

64.

Discuss the potential negative and positive consequences of jealousy for individuals and their
relationships.
Answer not provided.

65.

Compare and contrast the beliefs about love of the romantic and the realist by gender.
Answer not provided.

66.

Discuss how love is NOT BLIND...but very targeted.
Answer not provided.

67.

Compare how women and men cope with feeling jealous.
Answer not provided.

8


68.

What is the origin of stalking, who stalks the most and how?
Answer not provided.

69.

Explain the various forms of polyamory.
Answer not provided.

70.

Discuss the various social, psychological, physiological, body type and cognitive conditions under
which love develops.
Answer not provided.

71.

Examine how love in the workplace can work to the advantage and disadvantage of workers and
employers.
Answer not provided.

72.

Discuss the degree to which college students make relationship decisions with their heart versus their
head.
Answer not provided.

73.

Discuss how African-Americans and whites view love differently.
Answer not provided.

74.

Discuss how love between spouses in Medieval Europe was conceptualized and why? When did this
change and why?
Answer not provided.

75.

Discuss why the fourth year of marriage is associated with an increase in divorce rates.
Answer not provided.

9

10