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PHAN LTNG CUA TRE Vj THANH NIEN
TS.Nguygn Thi Nhif Trang
Khoa Aif hdi hoc, Trudng Dai hoc Khoa hpc jHdNdi.

T O M TAT
Thong qua viec phdn tich du lieu dieu tra bdng hdi vd phdng vdn sdu doi vdi
hoc sinh tai hai trudng pho thong irung hpc Igi Hd Nam, bdi viet mo td chi tiet nhdn
thicc vd phdn ung cita Ire vi thdnh nien khi chirng kien bgo luc giira bo vd me vd tdc
dpng cita viec chung kien bgo luc gia dinh tdi cdc em. Kel qud khdd sdl cho thdy, ty le
hpc sinh chirng kien bgo luc gia dinh Igi dia bdn nghien ciru khd cao vd viec chirng
kien ndy khong cd lien he vdi gidi linh ciia hpc sinh. mirc song ciia gia dinh vd dia bdn
cu trii. Chirng kien bgo luc gia dinh khong chi tao ra cdc phdn ung cdm xiic lieu cue,
md con ddn tdi nhirng hdnh vi tieu cue cho Ire vi Ihdnh nien. Khdo sdt cUng tim thdy
moi lien he ro net giua mirc dp chung kien bgo luc gia dinh vdi suy gidm hpc luc, hgnh
kiem vd su gia ldng xu hudng sir dung bgo luc trong cdc moi quan he ban be ciia Ire vi
ihdnh men.
Tir khoa: Bao luc gia dinh: Vi thdnh nien: Phdn iing cdm xiic: Phdn img hdnh vi
Ngdynhdnbdi

\0l2/20\7; Ngdy duyel ddng bdi. 25/2/2017.
ABSTRACT

By analyzing data fi-om questionnaire sun-ey and In-depth interviews M'ith sludenls
at two high .schools in Ha \'am province, this article provides an insightful description of
adolescents' awareness and response when witnessing their parents' violent confrontation
and how this witness affects them. Findings .show that the rale of adolescents witnessing
domestic violence is quite high among tho.se .surveyed in this research, and witness of
domestic violence has no statistically significant associalion with adolescents' .sex, family
social-economic status and place of residence, whereas witness of domestic violence

results in adole.scents ' negative emotions and behaviors This research also documented
significant associations between fi-equency of witness of domestic violence and adolescent's
academic performance, di.sciplinary record and tendency to resorl lo violence when
dealing wilh peer Lon/hcl
Key nords: Witness of domestic violence -Adolescent. Emotional respon.se. Behmwral
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1. Bat v4n de
Bao luc giua va va chdng la van de nhSn dupe nhiiu quan tam tir cic nha
nghien ciiu, cac nha hoach djnh chinh sdch, cac nha gi4o due va thuc hdnh nhu
tam ly hpe tri Hdu hay edng tac xS hpi. Tuy nhidn, sir quan tam thudng chii yeu
tap trung vao nan nhan true tiep ciia bao luc gia dinh (thudng la ngudi phu nil).
Nan nhan gian tiip ciia bao luc gia dinh la tre em it dupe quan tam hem. Ngoai ly
do tre em la nan nhan gian tiip (gpi Id "gian tiip" vi fre em khdng phdi la muc
dich ma bao lite gia dinh hudng tdi), mpt ly do quan trpng niia Id hdu qud ciia
bao lue gia dinh dl lai len tre em it tinh hiin hien vd tinh tdrc thdi hon so vdi nan
nhan true tiip cita nd. Vi vay, tre em eua eae gia dinh ed bao luc gia dinh thudng
dupe gpi Id "nan nhan tham lang" bay "nan nhan bj bd quen" (Elbow 1982; Groves
va ddng su 1993).
Song hdnh vdi vice bj "bd quen", nan nhan tre em ciia bao lue gia dinh
gitta bd vd me chiing lai chiu nhtrng hau qua ciing rat khdc nghiet. Nhieu
nghien cira thirc'nghiem da ehi ra rdng, viee chirng kiln thudng xuyen hanh vi
bao lure giiia bd va me dl lai nhimg tdc ddng tieu cue lau ddi ddi voi tre, lir
nhttng vdn dl ndi hda nhu tram cam, suy gidm hpe Iuc,... tdi nhung van de bpc
Id ra ben ngodi nhu ed hdnh vi rdi loan chdng ddi xa hdi, ed xu hudng su dung

bao lire vdi ngudi yeu hoac chap nhdn dl ngudi yeu sit dung bao lire vdi bdn
than minh (Baker, 2002; Meltzer, 2009).
2. Phiro'ng phap nghien CIJ'U
De lam rd Ihirc trang chirng kien bao lye gia dinh cita tre em d tudi vi
thanh nien vd ddnh gia tac ddng cua viec chirng kien bao Iuc gia dinh tdi Ire,
bai viet sir dirng mdt phan kel qua cupc dieu tra bang bdng hdi' ddi vdi 216 hpe
sinh lir hai trudng phd thdng trung hpc tai Ha Nam, trong dd mdt trudng thudc
khu vyc dd thi. mdt trudng thudc khu vyc ndng thdn. Ci mdi trudng. nghien
ciru ehpn ngau nhien mpl Idp thudc mdi khdi (10, 11, 12) va phat bang hdi cho
loan bd hpc sinh trong Idp. Bang hdi dupe hpe sinh ty dien Iren Idp dudi sy
hudng dan ciia dieu tra vien va dupe Iam sach trong ngay. Nhirng bang hdi
khdng dam bao ve dp tin cay cita thdng tin cung cap se dupe loai trir de tranh
Iam sai Icch thdng tin, Ngoai ra. neu hpc sinh khdng mudn hodn thdnh cupc
khao sat vi bat cir ly do nao trong qua trinh tra Idi bang hdi, cac em dupe cham
dirt vice tham gia bat cir luc nao ma cac em mudn. Trong sd 250 bang hdi phat
ra. sd bang hdi thu vl la 216, ty le phan hdi dat 86,4%.

Cuoc dieu Ira bdng bdng hoi ndy Id mgt phdn ciia nghien cini Viec chirng kien hao
luc gia dinh vd khuynh hudng sic dung bao lire ciia tre vi thdnh nien. do TS Xguyen
Thi Nhu Trang vd CA' 7Win Thi Tiiyil Thu triin khai nam 2016.

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Bang hdi gdm cdc ndi dung: hdnh vi bao luc gia dirih; phdn umg cam xile
vd hdnh vi eua con khi chimg kiln bao luc gia dinh; cae vdn dl hpc tap va quan
hp ban be ctia tre. Trong dd, bao luc gia dinh Id hanh vi bao luc giua cha vd me
gdm 7 mlu hanh vi, nhu: "dap vd dd dac trong nha", "xd, ddy nhau", "lang ma,

de dpa, chiri mdng"... (biiu dd 1) vdi 4 muc dp chimg kien, tir 0 = chua chiing
kiln; 1 = rdt hilm khi; 2 = vdi Idn mdi thdng; 3 = vdi lan mdi todn; 4 = gdn nhu
hang ngdy.
Viec chung kiin bgo luc gia dinh Id bien dupe tinh bang tdng diem ctia ca
7 ehi bdo, vdi 2 gia tri 0 = chua timg chirng kien vd 1 = da timg chirng kien. De
phdn tich sau hon mdi lien he va chieu lien he gitta miic dp chirng kien bao lue
gia dinh cita hpc sinh vd eac mttc dp hpc tap vd ky luat ctia cdc em. Nghien ciru
eung thiet lap bien sd muc dd chung kien bgo lire gia dinh dya tren viec tinh
tdng dicm chung kien ddi vdi ca 7 mdu hdnh vi, vdi thang diem ban dau chay tir
0 den 7, sau dd bien ndy ma hda lai thanh bien tndi vdi 3 gia tri. Theo do, nhung
em dat 0 - 1 diem dupe gdp thanh nhdm "chua hoac rat hiem khi chirng kien bao
lyc gia dinh"; cac em dat 2 - 4 diem dupe gdp thdnh nhdin "chirng kien bao luc
gia dinh d muc dp trung binh" va cac em (lat tu 5 diem trd (en dupe gdp thanh
nhdm "chimg kien bao lye gia dinh d mirc dp cao".
Sd lieu dieu tra dupe khai thac chu yeu bang cac phep Ihdng ke md ta
(ty le %) de chi ra xu hudng trong eae trai nghiem lien quan tdi vice chirng
kien bao lye gia dinh va phan ung cita tre vj thanh nien. Trong cac phan tich
ddi vdi phan ung cua vi thanh nien sau khi chiing kien bao lyc gia dinh. ty le %
ehi tinh tren nhdm tre cd chirng kien.
Nghien ciru cung su dung kiem dinh Khi binh phuong va Pearson's (r)
kiem dinh mdi lien he giira viee chung kien bao lyc gia dinh va mpl sd van dc
trong hpc tap va quan he ban be ciia tre.
3. Phiin tich ket qua nghien ctiu
3.1. Muc dp chung kiin hao luc gia dinh d Ire vi thdnh nien
Du lieu thdng kc cho thay. 34.3% tdng sd hpc sinh dupe hdi cho bill
cac em da Itrng chirng kien bao lyc gia dinh. Trong sd cac cm da tirng chirng
kien bao lyc gia dinh. 48,6% sd cin da tirng chung kien it nhat indt mdu hanh
vi bao lyc. 27.0% da tung chirng kien it nhat 2 tnSu hanh vi, gdn 1/4 sd hpc
sinh da tirng chiing kien bao lyc gia dinh chung kiln il nhdt 3 indu hanh vi trd
len. ly le chung kien cao nhat ndm d ctic hinh thirc nhe nhdt trong sd 7 hang

iTiije hdnh vi bao luc gia dinh la: dap va dii dac trong nhd (21.3% so hpc sinh
cho bill cac cm da tirng chirng kien hanh vi nay giira bd va me), tiip din la
hanh \ i so.day nhau (17,6%) va ldng ma. de doa. chui mdng nhau (17,1 %).

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Bieu do 1: Ty le tre vl thdnh nien chirng kien hdnh vi
mdu thudn giira bd vd me (%)
Nhirng hinh thiic xung dpi bao lure nghiem trpng hon giua bo va me la
ddnh dap, dudi ra khoi nhd va tdn cong cd sir dung do vgt it dien ra trucTc su
churng kien cua con hon (lan lugt la 6,9%; 3,2% va 1,4%). Tuy nhien, dang luu
y la CO 0,9% so tre vi thanh nien da tung chung kien bo/me su dung vu khi co
tinh sat thuong de tan cong nhau. Ty Ic nay tuy rat thap nhung day lai la hanh
vi bao luc rat nguy hiem va co the dan toi an hinh sir.
Ket qua khao sat cung cho thay, hanh vi bao luc giua cac cap vp chong
dien ra cong khai iruoc mat con cai khong co su phan bict ve muc song va dia
ban cu tru. Kiem dinh Khi binh phuong giua bien chung kien bao luc gia dinh
va cac bien ve muc song, dia ban cu tru cho thay khong co moi lien he co y

nghTa vc mat thong kc. Ket qua nay phu nhan hai gia dinh ban dau cija chung
toi la cac cap vp chong thupc ho gia dinh co muc song cao thuong bict kiem
soat vice x6 xat giu'a vp chong trude mat con cai hon cac cap vp chong o gia
dinh CO muc song thap va cha mc 6 do thi it x6 xat giua vo chong truoc mat
con cai han cha mc a nong thon. Kiem dinh Khi binh phuong cho Ih^y. moi
lien he giu'avicc chung kien bao luc gia dinh va gioi tinh ciia tre vi thanh nien
ciing cho thay. khong co moi lien he co y nghTa ve mat thong ke, bo me khong
vi thuong con gai hay ngai con trai ma kiem che vice x6 xal Iruoc sir chung
kien cua con.

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Tdm lai, kit qua khao sdt cho thdy, viec chiing kiln bao lue giua bo va
me diin ra kha phd biin trong gia dinh cua tre vi thanh nien tai dia bdn khdo
sat. Va ty le chttng kiln bao luc gia dinh tuong ddi nhu nhau gitta cac nhdm vj
thanh nien khdc nhau vl mttc sdng, gidi tinh vd dia ban cu trii (nong thdn/dd thi).
Cau hdi tiip theo dupe djt ra la, khi chung kien hdnh vi bao lye gitta bd
vd me, tre vj thdnh nien nghi gi, cac em phdn ling nhu the nao vd bo me phan
ung lai vdi phan irng eiia ede em ra sao?
3.2. Nhan thitc vd cdm xdc eua tre vj thdnh nien khi chirng kien bgo
luc gia dinh
Vi mdi quan he gitta me va con trong cac gia dinh Viet Nam thudng gdn
bd vd thdn thiit hon mdi quan he giua bd vd con. Chung tdi gid dinh rdng, khi
chirng kien bao lye gia dinh, tre vj thanh nien se ed khuynh hudng benh me vd
dd Idi eho bd. Tuy nhien, tren thyc te, ket qud khdo sat lai cho thdy, trong mdt
tre vj thdnh nien, da sd cdc eudc xd xat trong gia dinh la do Idi cita cd bd vd me
(67,1%). Chi cd 11,7% eho rang Idi chit yen Id tu me va mdt ty le gdn gap ddi

eho rdng, Idi ehii yeu la tu bd (21,2%i). Vd eiing theo cdc em quan sat, xd xdt
gitta bd vd me chu yen dien ra trong nhd (72,8%i). Chi ed gan 2,0%! cho biit la
mdu thudn gitta bd vd me thudng xay ra nhdt khi gia dinh eae em den tham dng
ba. Con sd ndy tuy nhd nhung gpi y tdi mdt dac diem eua gia dinh khu vyc
ddng bang Bac Bd la cd sy can Ihiep/tae dpng cita gia dinh idn tdi gia dinh nhd
(Dao Duy Anh. 1938/1992). Ngodi ra, dang chu y la ed tdi gan 1/4 sd tre vi thdnh
nien (25,4%) eho biet, bd mc cdc em cd the xd xdt d bat cir dau, phan dnh mpl
tinh trang bao lye gia dinh tuong ddi thieu kiem sodt eua ca ngudi trong eudc.
Nguyen nhdn ciia bao lyc giua cac cap vp chdng, trong mat tre, la tdng
hpp ciia nhiiiu ly do nhung Iy do chit yeu nhat den tu sy khac biet trong quan
diem sdng vd irng xir (chieiri 86,4%). tiieu dd 2 dudi day md td cu thi nhttng
man thuan dan tdi bao lyc gia dinh giua bd va tue theo nhdn dinh ciia tre vi
thanh nien:
Kct qua khao sat cho thay. cd tdi gdn 56,0% so tre chirng kiln bao lyc
gia dinh cho rang, cdc eudc xd xat giua bd vd me cd lien quan tdi minh (bat
ddng trong giao due con cai). Xet tdi nhung hau qud tire thdi vd lau dai ma bao
luc giua bd va me dc lai eho con khi Ire chirng kiln, viec hon inpl nira sd tre
thaiTi gia khdo sal cho rang nguyen nhan bao lyc gia dinh cd lien ddi tdi minh
la mdt thyc tc ma cac nhd thyc hanh can luu y. Thuc tl nay cho thdy, vice gidi
tda tdm ly mac cam, ty dd Idi cho ban than cua tre trong cdc gia dinh cd bao
lyc gia dinh la mpl trong nhung inuc lieu can thiep khdng the xcin nhe.

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Biiu dd 3 md td cu thi cdc phdn ttng cdm xiic cua tre vj thanh nien khi
chung kiln hanh vi bao lue gitta bd va me.
Cdn luu y rdng, tre vi thanh nien tham gia khdo sdt deu d giai doan cudi
cua tuoi vi thdnh nien (15 - 17 tudi), cae em eiing da d mttc dp trudng thdnh
nhdt dinh vl nhdn thue va cdm xuc. Hon ntta, de.n dp tudi ndy thi viee chttng
kien bao lyc gitta bd vd me cua da sd cdc em khdng cdn la dieu mdi me. Tuy
nhien, dtt lieu khdo sat cho thdy, phdn ung cdm xuc cua tre vi thdnh nien mdi
khi chirng kiln bao lyc gitta bd va me vdn khd tieu eye. Da sd cdc em budn
(67,1%), gdn 1/5 sd tre vi thanh nien chttng kien bao lyc gia dinh cam thay sp
hai. Mdt sd em tue gidn vdi bd vd vdi me.
Ty le eac em tire gian vdi bd (20,7%) vd me (20,2%) cd thi khdng phai
qud cao nhung day Id mdt eon sd dang luu y. Phdng van sdu cho thdy, rdt nhiiu
cap vp chdng cd mau thuan sau sac vdi nhau nhung lai cd gang chiu dyng nhau
vi ly do "giu gia dinh eho eon". Tuy nhien, kel qud khdo sdt cung ddng thdi cho
thdy, tre cam thay tdn thuong kha sau sdc khi phdi sdng citng cdnh bd me bdt
hda. Dieu ndy dan tdi mdt tinh trang Id, trdi ngupc vdi tdm ly ciia tre em ndi
chung la sp gia dinh lan vd, tnpl sd tre sdng trong gia dinh cd bao lyc gia dinh
nghiem trpng gitta bd vd me lai mong mudn bd me chia tay nhau. Ichdng cdn
chiu dyng nhau. Vd dac biel, tre khdng mudn bd me lay con ra Iam ly do cho
viec chiu dyng ciia minh.

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mot cuoc thdo Imin nhom
Mpt dicm dang luu j nira la. niu niiu chi cd 11.7% sd tre cho rdng bao

lyc gia diiih la do Idi cua mc va cd tdi 21,2% sd Ire cho rdng la do loi cua bd, con
sd cam thiiy tire giiin vdi bo va mc lai kha hrimg dutmg nhau''(khoang 20,0%). Cau

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hoi dat ra la: Dieu gi khien tre vj thanh ni^n tuc gi$n vai me du me la n?n nhan
cua bao lire gia dinh? Kit qua phong vin sSu cho thiy, kk ci khi me la nan nhan
cua bao luc gia dinh, nhieu em van cam thay tiic giein vai m? vi me da cam chiu
cupc song bi bao luc. Mpt s6 cho biit, cac em da c6 ging dpng vien me li di bo
nhung me van tiep tuc cam chiu. Ban diu cac em trach b6 nhung den mot thai
didm nao do, cac em cam thay gian ca bo va me. Gian b6 vi b6 da danh me va
gian mc vi me da cam chiu dieu do.
Khac vai suy nghT ciia nhieu nguai me, da s6 tre vi thanh nien cho biet
cac em khong muon me phai kho, phai hi sinh vi minh.
3.4. Phdn iing hanh vi cua tre vj thanh niSn khi chicng kiin hao luc
gia dinh
Ben canh nhung cam xuc tieu cue, ty le tre vi thanh nien co phan ung
thu dpng va tuong doi tieu cue khi chiing kien bao lire gia dinh giffa b6 va me
cung kha Ion.

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Bieu do 4: Phdn irng ciia ire vi thanh nien khi chirng kien bgo lire gia dinh
Nhu hieu do 4 cho thay, ly le cac em vi thanh nien thucrng co gang tich
cue can ngan bo mc chi chi6m 1/4 s6 hpc sinh chung ki&n bao lire (25,4%). Ty
le cac cm nho nguoi khac can ihicp voi bd mc con nho hon nua (16.9%). Phhn
Ion cac cm cho bict. minh ihuong phan iing kha thu dong hoac tham chi kha

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tieu cue, trong d6 bo nh^ di chiim ty le phan iing cao nhat (31,9%), tiep theo la
tam sir vai ai do (thuang la ban than ho^c nguai yeu) cho da buon (24,9%).
Mpt s6 em thuang tr6n vao mot chd nao do d6 khong phai nghe tieng bo me
ming chui, x6 xat nhau (12,7%) hoac khoe (9,4%). Vai ty le 4,2% so tre vi
thanh nien lira chon phuang an "khdc" (bo di choi game, nghe nhac, quen roi.
khuyen giai khong duac)...
Co khoang gin 1/4 s6 tre vi thanh nien cho biit, cac em thuang tim den
nguai khac dS tam su cho da buon. Tuy nhien, khong phai em nao cung tam su
ve chuyen xd xat giiia bo va me. Ket qua khao sat bang bang hoi cung cho
thay, ty le tre vi thanh nien co khuynh huong giau kin viec bao luc giua bo va

me minh rat cao. Thuc te cho thay, mac dii vice chiing kien bao lire gia dinh
gay ra nhieu cdm xiic tieu cue cho tre nhung nhieu tre lai lira chon im lang: co
40,4% so tre vi thanh nien ehiing kien bao lire gia dinh cho biet cac em chira
tung tam sir hay chia se viec nay vai ai. Neu c6 tho 16 tam sir vdi ngudi khac
thi ban than cung trudng dupe cac em lira ehpn nhieiTnhat (39,2%), trong khi
chia se vdi ngudi yeu chi chiem 16,0%'. Ddng thdi cung cd mpt ty le nhd sd
tre vi thanh nien tam sir vdi thay c6 giao, chiem 4,7%. Nhiing con sd nay goi y
cho thay, vice can thiep ho tra nham giam thieu tac dpng tieu cue ciia bao luc
gia dinh giua vp va chdng vdi tre em cd the dupe trien khai ca d trudng hoc
Ihdng qua vice phat huy vai Iro cua ban be va thay cd.
Trong sd nhung cm nhd cay tdi ngudi khac can ngan bd mc, ngudi cac
em thudng lim den nhat la gia dinh ben ndi (39,2%). trong khi chi co 9.7% so
Ire vj Ihanh nien tim den nha ngoai nhd giup dd (tham chi Ihap hon so vdi ly !c
nhd den sir can thiep cua hang xdm - 18.8%). Su chenh lech nay gpi y tdi mot
dac diem van hda gia dinh khu vuc ddng bang Bac Bp la quan niem coi trpng
gia dinh ben ndi va quan diem nay tac dpng kha rd net tdj cac md hinh ung xu'
cua cac thanh vicn trong cac gia dinh (Mai Huy Bich. 1993; Nguy6n Hilu Minh
vallirschman. 2000).
Tuy nhien. bai kc la cac cm tu minh can ngiin hay nhd ngudi khac (ihco
ihii lu uu lien: gia dinh ben npi. hang xdm. bac trudng Ihon/ld Irudng dan phd).
Ihuc tc cac nd luc nay it mang lai kel qua lich cue nhu kel qua irinh bay d bic'u
dd 5 dudi diiy:
Du lieu d bieu dd 5 cho thay. cd mgi ly Ic nhd bd mc cd chu y idi phan
ung ciia con cai d lua tudi \ i ihanh nien ciia minh: 27.3% sc giam bdi cudng dp
bao luc Irong xd xat khi cd con cai can ihicp, 12.5% iham ehi ngirng \d xal,
Tuy nhien. cd idi 40.9% sd [re vi ihanh men cho biel su can ngan cua cac em
-'ly IC' ndy tin linh rieng trong nhdm co ngudi yeu Trong nhom co chiing kiCn hao
luc gui dinh 30 em (40.6%j dang cd ngirdi yen. 44 em (59,4%) chua cd ngudi \ On
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khdng cd tae dung gi. Tham chi, mot sd em cdn cho bidt cac em cang can ngan,
bd me eang manh tay hon vdi nhau (3,4%) hoSe quay sang danh ming cdc em
(9,8%). NhiSng con sd nay cho thSy, mot bo phan bd me hien nay khdng he chii
y tdi hau qua tieu eye eiia viec xd xit va chdng tdi con cai. Tdng hop phdng
van sau vdi mot sd vi phu huynh, chiing tdi thjy, mdt nguyen nhSn kha phd
bidn la each nghi dan gian rang viec bd me khdng lien quan gi din con cai
(•'minh ed danh nd dau ma nd phai nghi") hoac ho eiing ed y thurc ring de con
cai chiing kien bao lye gia dinh giQa bd va me la khdng tdt nhuiig y thire nay
khdng du manh de ho kidm soat hanh vi, tranh xd xat trude mat con cai. Nhu
mdt ngudi me (43 tudi, can bd van phdng, khu vyc ndng thdn) chia se: "Biet thi
cUng biet nhung liic day tire len rdi thi khdng the kiem sodt dugc. CUng khdng
mudn mdng nd [miang con vi con can ngan bd me - chii thich ciia ngudi nghien
ciru] nhung liic ddy gign qud mdt khdn. Sau thi chi ciing xin loi nd".

anl VI bat) lire

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Ro mo lap lire
dim;: xo xal

Khdti g CO Ilk dunj;
gl

Hanh VI bao itre
cdn manh hon

Khdng nhiing
khdng dimg l^i.
bd/me con dinh
mang Idl

Bieu dd 5: Phdn ting cua bd me khi tre vi thdnh nien co gang
can ngdn bgo luc gia dinh
Cling kha ddng thuan vdi cac ket qua tren, khao sat cho thay, tre em
chirng kien bao luc gia dinh cd xu hudng phan ddi bao lyc gia dinh cao hon so
vdi tre ehua tirng chirng kien bao lyc gia dinh. i'uy nhien, khi diinh gia chung
Ircn toan bd khach the nghien ciru, da sd tre vi thanh nien lai dia ban nghien
ciru the hien thai do chap nhan nhSt dinh vdi bao lye gia dinh.

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Bi6u dd 6 cho th§y, ty le tre vj thanh nien tai dia ban nghien cuu cam
thay chap nhan duac bao luc gia dinh rat cao, mac du miic dp chap nhan cua
cac em la khac nhau. Chi cd khoang 27,0% sd tre vi thanh nien chung kien bao
lire gia dinh cho biet, bao lire gia dinh la khdng chap nhan dupe, trong khi
41,7% cho rSng cdn tiiy hoan canh; 25,0% cho rang do la chuyen binh thudng
va chap nhan duoc. Tham chi, 6,5% cho rang bao luc gia dinh giua chdng va
vp trong mpt sd tinh hudng la viec chn thiet dd duy tri ky cuang gia dinh.

n Can ihiet. dS giCt ky cirong gia dinh
n Tiiy. c6 liic chap nhan dirac. c6 luc khong

Q Chuyen binh [huong, co the chip nhan ducrc
O Khong chap nhsin dugc

Bieu do 6: Quan diem cua tre vi thdnh nien ve vdn de bgo luc gia dinh
Tuy nhien, ket qua khao sal cho thay cd mdi lien he ihuan chieu giira miic
dp chiing kien bao lire gia dinh va muc dp phan ddi bao luc gia dinh. Cu the, cac
em cang chiing kien nhicu bao luc gia dinh thi cang cd xu hudng phan ddi bao
luc gia dinh (r = 0,334; p < 0.001). Bang phan bd eho thay, loan bd cae cm thudc
nhdm 6,5% cho rang bao luc gia dinh giua vp va chdng la can Ihict deu ihudc vc
nhdm vi thanh nien chua tirng chiing kien bao luc gia dinh. Ngupe lai, ly Ic phan
ddi manh me bao luc gia dinh (bao luc gia dinh la chuyen khdng chap nhan
dupe) cao nhat d nhdm chung kien nhieu bao luc gia dinh (60,5%), cao hon han
so vdi nhdm it chiing kien bao luc gia dinh (33,6%) va cao hon gan gap 4 lan
nhdm chua bao gid ehiing kien bao luc gia dinh (16,2%).
Nghich ly la, mac du vc nhan ihiic, nhdm chiing kien bao luc gia dinh
cd xu hudng phan ddi bao luc gia dinh giCra vo va chdng cao hon han nhdm
khdng chiing kien bao luc gia dinh nhung Ircn ihuc le, khi cd mau thuan ban be
va mau ihuan vdi ngudi yeu, cac em lai cd xu hudng su dung bao luc cao hon
so vdi nhdm khdng chung kien. Kiem dinh Khi binh phuong cho th^y cd mdi
lien he ed y nghTa giu'a vice chiing kien bao luc gia dinh vdi vice sir dung bao
lire de giai quyel mau Ihuan ban be va mau ihuan vdi ngudi yeu ciia Ire vi

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thanh nien tham gia khao sat (X^ va bac ty do (df) iin lugt = 40,018/8;
21.129/6; p < 0,001). Ket qua nghien ciiu nay kha tuong ddng vai cac kdt qua
nghien cuu di trude ve tac ddng cua vice ehiing kidn bao lye gia dinh cua bd

me len xu hudng bao lyc ddi vdi ngudi yeu/ban ddi cila thanh nien sau n^y
theo hudng nam gidi eang chirng kidn nhidu bao lyc gia dinh giila bd va rni:
eang cd xu hudng su dung bao lyc vdi ban gai/vg va ty le nil gidi churng kien
nhidu bao lyc gia dinh giira bd va me trd thanh nan nhan cila bao hanh gia dinh
sau khi kct hdn cao ban han so vdi nhdm nir ehua tirng chiing kien bao lyc gia
dinh giOa bd va me (UNICEF, 2006; Future without violence. 2008).
Khdng chi the, ket qua khao sat cdn cho thay, viee chirng kien bao lyc gia
dinh cdn ed hau qua kha rd net loi thanh tich trong trudng hgc cita tre vj thanh
nien. Tucmg ty cac nghien cim di Irudc, nghien ciru nay ciing phat hien mdi lien
he cd y nghTa ctia vice chirng kien bao lyc giira bd va mc vdi ddi sdng hpc
dudng ciia hoc sinh. Sd lieu cho thay, hpc sinh eang chimg kien nhieu bao lye
giiia bd va me, cac em cang cd xu hudng hpe kem va mdi lien he nay cd y nghia
ve mat thdng ke (r = 0,335; p < 0,001). Kiem dinh mdi lien he giu'a viec chirng
kien bao lyc gia dinh vdi hanh kiem eua hpc sinh chp thay, mdi lien he nay tham
ehi cdn manh hon so vdi mdi lien he vdi hpc lyc (r = 0,379; p < 0,001) va theo
hudng hpc sinh citng chirng kien nhicu bao lyc gia dinh cang cd xu hudng cd
nhirng hanh vi vi pham ky luat Irong trudng hpe nhieu va nghiem trpng hon sp
vdi eae ban khac.
4. Kct luan
Ket qua khao sat cho thay, mdt ly Ic dang ke so tre vj thanh nien tham
gia khao siil cho bict cac cm da Itrng chirng kien bao lye giila bd va mc, bit kd
cac em sdtig d khu vyc ndng thdn hay dd thj hay den tir mdi trudng gia dinh
vdi mirc sdng khae nhau nhu the nao. Nhin chung. Ire vj thanh nien cd each
nhin nhan kha can biing vc man thuiin giira bd va me nhung vd inat cam xuc.
vice chiing kien niiy tdi nay van gay ra eho cae em nhidu dang cam xiic tieu
cue khac nhau. mac dit cac em deu da gin vdi dp tudi trudng thanh. Va tuong
ung. ty Ic sd tre vj thiinh nien nd lyc can thiep bao lyc gia dinh tuong ddi thip,
trong khi Ciic phiin irng hanh vi cd tinh tieu eye lai cao hon.
Nghien ciru tim thay indi lien he cd y nghTa giila vice chirng kidn bao lyc
gia dinh vdi viec suy giam kdt qua hpc lap va Ciic hiinh vi vi pham ky luat trudng

hpc ciia tre vi thanh nien. Ddng thdi, kdt quii khao sat cung cho thiy. cd tuong
quan kha manh giua vice chirng kiiin bao lyc gia dinh vdi xu hutVng bao lyc cua
Ire vi thanh nien trong cac moi quan he vdi ban be va ngudi yeu. Mdt each khai
quat. kct quii niiy cho thiiy, tac ddng tieu cue cua vice chirng kien bao lyc gia
dinh ddi vdi tre vj thanh nien khdng thuin tiiy chi la viin de cam xiic hay cac
phan irng hanh vi tire thdi (tai thdi didm chimg kidn) ma ed tinh lau dai htm rit

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nhidu (anh hudng tdi vide hinh thJnh cdc miu hanh vi lech chuin tai tnroTig hpc
va suy giam hoc lyc), ddi hdi cin cd sy quan tam, can thiep cOa khong chi cac
nha nghien cilu mi ca cic nha thyc hanh nhu tu van tam ly hay cdng tac xa hpi.
Nghien cdru nay cung ggi y ring, chiing ta can tien hanh them cac nghien
curu khac vd tac dpng cua bao luc gia dinh ddi vdi trd a lira tuoi nhd hon, ddng
thdi cin danh gii, so sanh giOa cac khu vuc sdng khac nhau: cae dd thj Idn nhu
Ha Ngi, thanh phd Hd Chi Minh va cac khu vyc ndrig thdn, khu vuc mien ndi;
giGa nhdm bd me khac nhau va giGa nhdm bo me va eon cai de cd the xiy
dyng dugc eac chuong trinh/md hinh can thiep hidu qua nham giam thidu tac
dOng tieu eye cua viec chiing kien bao lye giGa chdng va vg tdi nan nhan gian
tidp cua no la tre em.
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