Giao thoa van hoa CROSSCULTURAL COMMUNICATION

<span class='text_page_counter'>(1)</span>Table of content I. Introduction..................................................................................2 II. Literature review..........................................................................3 1. Definition of love and marriage...............................................3 1.1. Love...................................................................................3 1.2. Marriage............................................................................4 III. Content…………………………………………………………..4 2. Characteristics in Vietnamese and American marriage.......4 3. How culture affect the way constructing marriage...............7 IV. Conclusion....…….......................................................................8 References..........................................................................................9.

<span class='text_page_counter'>(2)</span> I.. Introduction: Love Love is like a lump of gold, Hard to get, and hard to hold. Of all the girls I've ever met, You're the one I can't forget. I do believe that God above, Created you for me to love. He chose you from all the rest, Because he knew I would love you best. (Loy Bowman). Perhaps, one of things that has experienced and challenged to time and space which has been still remained absolutely is love. In fact, everyone in all of us have or wants to have a sweetheart but it is not always easy to find a fully satisfactory sweetheart. The problem is more complex when the people who are trying to find a sweetheart come from different countries, facing to the barriers of different languages and customs. Therefore, in this paper, I would like to compile and classify the information from some articles, books or websites to find out the problems about. love and marriage between Vietnamese and. American. Studying the ways people from another society expressing their love and their perceptives of love and marriage will gives language students the knowledge about differences in marriage culture. Besides, through this paper, I would like to give someone who are going to go abroad for settling or living a.

<span class='text_page_counter'>(3)</span> long time an overview on characters of marriage culture, so that they can have their own ways to make love or get married. II.. Literature review. 1. Definition of love and marriage 1.1. Love Love is an abstract and polysemous concept. It can be understood in many different ways.. According to general meaning, Love is some of emotions. concerned to a strong affection and attachment sense. The word love can refer to a variety of different sensations, and attitudes, states, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. This difference of usages and meanings, combined with the complexity of the sensations involved, making love is unusually difficult to define consistently, even compared to other emotional states. Considered as an abstract noun, love usually refers to a deep, ineffable feeling of soothing care for another person. However, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of platonic and familial love to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. Love in its different forms acts as a major facilitator of inter-personal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in creating arts. 1.2. Marriage.

<span class='text_page_counter'>(4)</span> Marriage is usually the decision to marry based on a mutual agreement between the man and the woman. Parents may or may not be asked to give their permission. The marriage ceremony may a simple visit to city hall, where marriage vows are exchanged and paper are signed, or it can be an complicated religious celebration. There are numerous alternatives to the traditional wedding ceremony. (Mara B. Adelman, Ph.D. 1993. page 202). People marry for many reasons, most often including one or more of the following: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious. These might include arranged marriages, family obligations, the legal establishment of a nuclear family unit, the legal protection of children and public declaration of love. III.. Content. 2. Characteristics in Vietnamese and American marriage As for Vietnamese, marriage is considered to be one of the most significant events in life. However, there still exist some differences between a traditional and a modern marriage. In the old days, a marriage of a man or a woman was arranged by his or her parents. This means the man or woman did not have rights to decide who will be her husband or his wife, everything was decided by her or his parents. In parents’ opinion: love will step by step develop after a long time living together. Therefore, even some men or women did not know face, name and appearance of their wives and husbands until their first night after wedding. So, marriage was not always a happy event because the young couples did not have rights to decide their fate..

<span class='text_page_counter'>(5)</span> Nowadays, marriage is different. Men and women are freer to choose who they shall get married with despite obstacles from their parents in some cases, some families or some regions. There is no particular time for a marriage but young couples can be free to hold their significant event in some months mostly from November to February annually. After the marriage, newly married couples prepare needful things in order to welcome a traditional Tet's holidays and the Spring which are considered to be good and fresh for beginning of a new life. There is a ttendency of late marriage of young people who want to be free instead of being tied to a family and children. There still many people have no steady jobs, and they are not sure if they can keep the happiness. That is main reason why they are not yet ready to build a family. As for American, a couple's relationship is primarily a private affair. Parents, brother, sisters, or other relatives are not involved in the dating process as heavily as in some other cultures, and issues such as family's lineage, wealth, or social status are not usually a major consideration when seeking a partner. Men and women usually become acquainted at school, work, or through mutual friends or activities… Frequently the pair "goes out" on a few dates, but the man or woman may also go out on dates with others at the same time. After a length of time, whether it is a few days, weeks, or months, the couple decides to date each other exclusively. If the relationship becomes serious and the couple is in love, they may commit to an engagement. It is customary that the man proposes marriage to the woman, although the decision may be consensual. if one wants to get married, he or she can do so as soon as one reaches legal age of typically eighteen years old in most states, but there is not upper social boundary of the.

<span class='text_page_counter'>(6)</span> right age to get married. In fact, in the recent years, it is common for people to start the family life when they are close to thirty years old. This way, they have enough time to "have fun" and get education before their real home obligations start. So, People who get married for the right reasons and have moderate expectations from the union can build happy and lasing marriages regardless of the family and social pressures, cultural assumptions, or geographic location. 3. How culture affect the way constructing marriage There are many cultural specifics which effected on love, dating process or marriage. Vietnam is a nation that has more than four thousand years cultural. So, the lifestyle of Vietnamese was more or less affected by Confucianism, so in Vietnamese’s mind always exists a feudality. This feudal factor has effected on many other factors in life; especially on marriage culture. In former, when the civilization did not develop yet, people’s perceptions were not still progressive yet; the marriage between man and woman was completely arranged by parents. With the moral principle “where parents lays, there children sit”, the dating, love and marriage were completely not to man and woman. By contrast, America is a capital nation; people live with one another following individualism, so American lifestyle is entirely free. The dating, love and then marriage of man and woman are totally built by themselves without intervenient of parents or relatives. It presents a more civilization lifestyle. Nowadays, owing to development of society, Vietnamese’s perceptions are less or more changed. Because of cultures of many countries in the world were.

<span class='text_page_counter'>(7)</span> imported into Vietnam and they effected on Vietnamese culture making changes. Although men and women are still controlled less or more by parents but it is freer in making love, date or marriage than former. These cross-cultural and inter-cultural themselves has created an own characters in Vietnamese culture. IV.. Conclusion. In conclusion, although there are many differences (in the past) in marriage problem, there are still many similarities (nowadays), they are similarities about making love, dating, or marriage; love must originate from two persons man and woman without any obstacles of family. In love, there is always a givingreceiving. Through this, we can see the love of lovely couple plays a very important role in life, especially in Vietnam. Aware of this, everyone in all of us should keep and look after a truth love for ourselves. On the other hand, through the studying about major characteristics in love and marriage in Vietnamese and American culture being helpful to languages students like us an overview of the perceptive of love and marriage in each nation. Consequently, it is really helpful for everyone who has an intention to go abroad settling and building a new family. They can less or more know the culture to make love, treat love, dating or marriage, so that they will not get cultural shocks in some cases..

<span class='text_page_counter'>(8)</span> References Books: 1. Ashley Montagu. (1963). The cultured man. Page 223, 224, 225. The world publishing company. 2. Bruce Burgett & Glenn Hendler. (2007). Keys words for American cultural studies. Page 152-153. New York University. 3. Deena R.Levine, M.A vs Mara B. Adelman, Ph.D. (1993). Beyond language – cross cultural communication. page 202. Prentice Hall Regents (Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey 07632). 4. Dorothy Holland & Naomi Quinn. (1987). Cultural models in language and thought. Cambridge University Press. 5. Gary, Anthen. (1988-edited 2003). American ways (a guide for foreigners in the United States). Intercultural Press_Anicholas Brealey Publishing Company Boston London. Websites: 6. ietnam.html 7. 8/7/9/p108796_index.html 8. & 9.

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